Dating Advice

[Mocha Chic]

I'm not very experienced when it comes to dating. I haven't been on that many dates because I get really nervous. Yesterday I went on a date and had a panic attack in the bathroom. It was so bad. I didn't get back to my date until 20 minutes later. He probably thought I had some serious indigestion. Anyway, I eventually calmed down. Now, later on that night, we kissed and then got into some heavy kissing. It was nice, but then he got aroused. Question? Is it my responsibility to satisfy his "friend?" He kept talking about it as if it was my problem. Is it my problem? I'm so confused. Truly I am. :eusa_wall I am so out of the loop, but I didn't want to touch it, I hardly know the guy. Any advice?

[Bahama Mama]

I'm not very experienced when it comes to dating. I haven't been on that many dates because I get really nervous. Yesterday I went on a date and had a panic attack in the bathroom. It was so bad. I didn't get back to my date until 20 minutes later. He probably thought I had some serious indigestion. Anyway, I eventually calmed down. Now, later on that night, we kissed and then got into some heavy kissing. It was nice, but then he got aroused. Question? Is it my responsibility to satisfy his "friend?" He kept talking about it as if it was my problem. Is it my problem? I'm so confused. Truly I am. :eusa_wall I am so out of the loop, but I didn't want to touch it, I hardly know the guy. Any advice?

First of all dont do anything you feel uncomfortable doing? You have the right to say no, and to have those wishes respected. I would suggest taking it slow with this guy, if you are interedted in further dates, then indicate to him that you are not interested in 'rushing into things'. If he continues to persist, then I say drop him.

[AngelsKiss]

For some reason the first thing that came to mine after reading what you wrote is this line from Shakespeare's Hamlet: "This above all: to thine own self be true..." I think these words are very powerful, think of what is right for you and do it, not what someone else thinks or wants. Allowing someone else to define who and what you are is giving control over to the other person.

Another thing I have learnt is that if you have doubts about something do not rush in to it. Give it time and be certain that it is what you want before forging ahead.

[Gillion]

I'm not very experienced when it comes to dating. I haven't been on that many dates because I get really nervous. Yesterday I went on a date and had a panic attack in the bathroom. It was so bad. I didn't get back to my date until 20 minutes later. He probably thought I had some serious indigestion. Anyway, I eventually calmed down. Now, later on that night, we kissed and then got into some heavy kissing. It was nice, but then he got aroused. Question? Is it my responsibility to satisfy his "friend?" He kept talking about it as if it was my problem. Is it my problem? I'm so confused. Truly I am. :eusa_wall I am so out of the loop, but I didn't want to touch it, I hardly know the guy. Any advice?
He won't die its not your fault and you are not responsible to "satisfy his friend ?"

Personally from my opinion a man that asks a woman he is dating for the first time to "get jiggy" so qucikly... he means you no good. This is just my opinion and I do not know him

But even if a woman I date on the first night aroused me I would walk it off because frankly... I want more from her and I won't respect her in the morning if I do get "it" the first night.

Listen... do this the old fashioned way... WAIT and with diseased going around WAIT SOME MORE and if he is serious about you HE WILL WAIT LONGER

[Mocha Chic]

Thank you everyone for your advice. He didn't call me the next day and today, he said he'd call me back. It took him a couple of hours to do so. Anyway, he told me that he's not looking for anything. Can you imagine?

[Cocoa]

Yes he just wanted a buddy to have sex with when ready. :rolleyes: Walk off and leave him alone, he means you no good and is not all that interested in the real YOU.

[krys]

Jacocoabutter is right, let him go satisfy his friend some other way. i have one question thugh: Is dating necessary?. i think in dating you never really, if at all get to know the real person, a person may put up a front to make somone like them, may be i'm jumping to a hasty conclusion,please,let me know if i'm mistaken?

[Arch_Angel]

Jacocoabutter is right, let him go satisfy his friend some other way. i have one question thugh: Is dating necessary?. i think in dating you never really, if at all get to know the real person, a person may put up a front to make somone like them, may be i'm jumping to a hasty conclusion,please,let me know if i'm mistaken?
What other way would you advise to get to know the person? Marry them? :eusa_whis

[Bahama Mama]

What other way would you advise to get to know the person? Marry them? :eusa_whis


Uh, I think it would be wise to get to know the person first before marrying them. Find out if you and the other perosn share common values, aspirations, goals. You dont want to realize three months into the marriage that you and your spouse have nothing in common, and cant stand one another after all. You dont want to wake up one morning, and go ah ****. What did I do?

[Arch_Angel]

Uh, I think it would be wise to get to know the person first before marrying them.
Why not? Holywood does it all the while. :eusa_whis

[nuhsenutten]

u shoulda tell di bwoy fi mek him bredren deal wid whatever him did want u to do if him a talk bout it so much


di bwoy very outter order.....

[Bahama Mama]

Why not? Holywood does it all the while. :eusa_whis


Anyone that wants a successful marriage, should be wise enough not to follow the model of Hollywood. Only if you want to know how to pull an 88 hour fling.

[tradag]

i cant give dating advise that well but if any one want they can come to me

[Lisa20]

so what is the advice? He ask for it why should he come to you anyways you not even old enough to date

[Gillion]

WOW !.... That had to hurt.

[Cocoa]

so what is the advice? He ask for it why should he come to you anyways you not even old enough to date
Who determines that? :eusa_doh:

[krys]

may be i should have been more specific. which would be wiser: date some one u have known for a while and have a growing frienship with, or date a cpmplete stranger? if u start as friends or even aquintances u have a chance to decide whearher u want to go further or not.

[tristan]

never be over aggressive on the first date, unless the feeling is mutual

[Lisa20]

Who determines that? :eusa_doh:

That's is my opinion and i Believe that if teens were not allowed to go on dates until they reach a certain age there would be less embrassing situations.

[Gillion]

That's is my opinion and i Believe that if teens were not allowed to go on dates until they reach a certain age there would be less embrassing situations.
How so ?

Help me out.

[Greatis]

That's is my opinion and i Believe that if teens were not allowed to go on dates until they reach a certain age there would be less embrassing situations.

I'm must be missing something here. Could you please expand on this?

[tradag]

wa the bbc u a dis me up so fa me know almost every thing about girl

[Arch_Angel]

What does the British Broadcasting Corporation have to do with anything tradag?

[Lisa20]

wa the bbc u a dis me up so fa me know almost every thing about girl


These initials that u used reminds me of the tazmainian devil that is your logo. Stop behaving like the child you are.

In the sense that if a teen, lets use tradag for ex., was allowed to stay home until got to the ripe age of say 18 he would be able to
Approach a woman in the proper manner
Over come nerves.

Take my eight year old nephew for instance , he is the perfect gentleman. He knows how to address women in a polite manner, he knows that on her birthday she must be treated special and he knows that she must always be treate like a lady.

Now my mom, sister and myself along with his uncle have thought him all these things and we know that when the time comes for him to start dating he will definately do it in a respectful manner.

Now thats just my opinion

[Gillion]

lawd Lisa easy with the personal punches nuh .... do!

[Lisa20]

I'm not very experienced when it comes to dating. I haven't been on that many dates because I get really nervous. Yesterday I went on a date and had a panic attack in the bathroom. It was so bad. I didn't get back to my date until 20 minutes later. He probably thought I had some serious indigestion. Anyway, I eventually calmed down. Now, later on that night, we kissed and then got into some heavy kissing. It was nice, but then he got aroused. Question? Is it my responsibility to satisfy his "friend?" He kept talking about it as if it was my problem. Is it my problem? I'm so confused. Truly I am. :eusa_wall I am so out of the loop, but I didn't want to touch it, I hardly know the guy. Any advice?

I finally took the time to read what was written and stop picking a argument with tradag too.

Here is my advice MC

First of all was this your first date?
If so do not let him tell you about satisfying his "friend", you dont give a rats *** about his "friend".
Remember you went out with him not his "friend".

If it was me i would have told him that i left my "friend" at home and she is quite contended being all alone :p .

From the panic attack that you had you should have known that it was gonna be a flop, that is "woman's intuition", so next time please follow what your head is saying and not what your body is feeling. (no kissing on the first date, if it was the first date)

Well thats my advice.

[Lisa20]

lawd Lisa easy with the personal punches nuh .... do!


Honestly, he started it.

[Gillion]

two wrongs do not make a right !

[Glitter]

1. Look before u leap :eusa_wall
2. Cant teach a old dog new tricks :eusa_snoo

[Gillion]

lead by example baby

[Lisa20]

well thats true but him too feisty fi wah baby

[Cocoa]

What does the British Broadcasting Corporation have to do with anything tradag?ROFL!!! :icon_lol: :icon_lol: :icon_lol:

[little warchief]

I'm not very experienced when it comes to dating. I haven't been on that many dates because I get really nervous. Yesterday I went on a date and had a panic attack in the bathroom. It was so bad. I didn't get back to my date until 20 minutes later. He probably thought I had some serious indigestion. Anyway, I eventually calmed down. Now, later on that night, we kissed and then got into some heavy kissing. It was nice, but then he got aroused. Question? Is it my responsibility to satisfy his "friend?" He kept talking about it as if it was my problem. Is it my problem? I'm so confused. Truly I am. :eusa_wall I am so out of the loop, but I didn't want to touch it, I hardly know the guy. Any advice?



*****DEAD WIT LAUGH ! ! ! ! !******** you sure yu did just kissing???

[Malloc-X]

young cheiftain behave urself

[Master E]

What does the British Broadcasting Corporation have to do with anything tradag? Explictive in Abreviation.

Lisa20 :icon_arro
You are just as imature as Tradag. this sort of behavior is most likely be expecterd from him NOT you.
Honestly, he started it I did not read where he hurled an insult a you therefore your the one which started it. You should be the one to be setting the example and not the one the one continuing the conflict you should be ashamed at your behavior!
If your reading this I demand You appologise to Tradag

[Manu]

Ok...I not getting into it with those two!

anyone needs advice....post your situation and I'll try to help as much as i can. I'm the unofficial date doctor of CY!!!