Confession??

[Nastro]

If you cheated on your spouse would you tell them?

[Chris]

Bwoy nastro, you sure can ask the "interesting" questions. I don't have an answer because that's a question I don't ever plan to have to run through my head.

[Nastro]

Thats a good answer Chris.

I do value your health you know :D

[Greatis]

hmm... good question. I've never cheated before. Don't plan to.....

[BlackCryptoKnight]

:icon_ques What is this "cheated"? :icon_ques

[Nastro]

Men = Crappy liars...

[Bug]

yes i would.

Doing some soul searching, ain't we Pap?

[Lisa20]

If you cheated on your spouse would you tell them?

According to the song " I don't wanna know if u playing me Please KEEP IT ON THE LOW.

So if i cheated i wouldn't even bother to let him know if he finds out though I will apologize.
:eusa_pray

[NirVana]

I agree with Chris...that's a thought I wouldn't want to :eusa_thin about. But as far as my take on this goes, if you're really into the person you're with, then it's unlikely that you'd be thinking about getting with anyone else (opperative word, REALLY). And then again, if you can now say whether you would tell or not means that you very well would cheat, cuz you've ALREADY thought about how you'd deal with it.

But, now that I have thought about it..(some more ;) - Nastro) I honestly don't know what I would do, and if I end up cheating, then there's no reason to tell or not tell, because I couldn't continue with that relationship.

A betrayal of trust is worst than a heartbreak. Most people remain friends after breakups, but if trust is broken, then so is the friendship, and there's no going back there.

On the flipside of things, I wouldn't want to know if I've been cheated on...I think I already hate too many people in this lifetime. The list is alraedy too long and I haven't even reached menopause yet :D

[reshanna]

interesting question. hopefully i wouldn't have to find otu what i would do. i dont think i would cheat on my husband/boyfriend but if i did i think i would tell - it's only fair. but then again it's easy for me to talk cause i am not in the situation.

but what is cheating to u guys though? just a by the way question.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Don't listen to that song talking about "I don't wanna know". These days, with AIDS you better know what your partner is up to!

[Nastro]

You could want to know little more, she not gonna tell you.

[Lisa20]

If you cheated on your spouse would you tell them?
Well would you Nastro? I believe that you honestly wouldn't because i know you too well. I believe that first u should ask ur \se;f the :icon_ques then go ahead and post it. I haven't seen ur reply as yet :icon_twis

[Lisa20]

Don't listen to that song talking about "I don't wanna know". These days, with AIDS you better know what your partner is up to!
That's true, but trust me if he cheated on me and i found out i wouldn't even bother to think about AIDS because i would kill him myself.

Honestly though i wouldn't even consider cheating because i LOVE my man too much to cheat on him :icon_redf :D ;)

[Nastro]

I would tell say if I were cheating :rolleyes: Honest! :eusa_whis

[Cocoa]

I've always said I dont want to know. But I say now 21st century woman and men.......let me know! No hiding or beating around the bush. Cause if it did happen I would let you know even before I cheated.

[Greatis]

really now Jabutter.

[MiTcHiE]

Honestly though i wouldn't even consider cheating because i LOVE my man too much to cheat on him :icon_redf :D ;)

If I had a dollar for every time I heard this. Cheating can be done by anyone no matter how in love they claim to be. If married people can cheat then anybody else can. When ur married u make a solid vow, and tons of people break it, so regular dating is just as hazardous. I learnt in the past to never say never. I have cheated many times, but that is in the past. I am clean now. Trying everyday not to cheat. Life hard star :rolleyes:

[Gillion]

hahahaha....

did you know that there is acertain finch in the galapagos that cheats on its mate ?

here goes...

the female bird is courted by a male.... she accepts because he lives in a territory that is his own and has lots of food and he also has built a very good nest. If it were a shoddy nest she wouldn't even accept him ... but here is the problem... the smart male bird with the mansion of a nest and nuff food... is a bit on the small side.

There is a nother bird... called rouges... same species... but the males don't build nests it seems... they just rome from turf to turf. The female bird sees the rouge and without so much as a courtship dance (the smart male bird had to do it) she drops her wings and lets him mate with her.

Poor male bird now has 2 extra mouths to feed since she lays the resultant eggs of the rouge bird affair along with her smart bird eggs.

why ?

because the rouge male bird looked better and had something the smart bird didn't... brawn... so she wants the best of both worlds and if she can get away with it... why not... di smart bird won't have a clue.

Now...

Humans... do the same damn thing.

We just cover it up with a nice thick veil of delusions.

--gillion

[Yatta]

HAHAHA........
THe sad part is that it is so......... true. When u get to the meat of the matter humans and animals are basically the same thing. So the next time u see a animal doing somethign that doesn't seem right? Take a closer look an imagine if u ever saw a human do basically the same thing??

[Chicokid]

If you cheated on your spouse would you tell them?

First off..why would I cheat on my spouse in the first place :icon_ques If I didn't like her to begin with I won't be with her but with someone else :)

[Liquid Bunny]

i accidentally kinda bad drove dis mini bus driver and we met up @ a stop light and he used his hand and hit ma moms car and threw a news paper on it :(

[pogi_2nr]

What are you smokin LB, that is totally unrelated to the topic at hand.

I would tell if I cheated, I cant keep secrets from my baby. (if I had one :()

[Gwadinka]

I don't know...

If it was just a one night stand then I wd not cause I wdn't want to hurt him... But if it's the accomplishment of a long process, then I wd tell him everything without a doubt.

But that r only suppositions, once in the situation I guess that my reactions wd be completely different

[pogi_2nr]

If it was just a one night stand then I wd not cause I wdn't want to hurt him...yup I need to stay single, my achey breaky heart could not take something like that. :(

omg girls are such dirty cheaters and they act like men are all dogs!

[Gwadinka]

No that's just that as I'm growing up I 'm starting to consider things differently. Why would I hurt my beloved, soulmate, perfect match because I was too stupid, too fool to keep evrythg under control.
I know that I wd depreciate myself so much and be too disgusted by me that I wldn't want my significant other to see this part of my character. I know that I wouldn't be able to stand it if he looked at me the way that I would.

[rreky]

If your partner confessed to the act of indiscretion before you found out about it, would you be more inclined to forgive them?

[Gwadinka]

Rreky would u mind answering the question of the thread before asking another one? It's not quite fair to stand outside and ask questions related to the answers that were posted.

[RachieBabie]

i kno a guy tht regularly cheats on his girl...

he swears he loves her... and has recently proposed marriage...they've been together more than 5/6 yrs now....

i dnt know if she's aware of his actions, or if she considers it... but he just cant seem to get enuff gratification

to him.. cheating doesnt affect how he feels bout his ''wifey''... he still loves and ''respect'' her

[NEFERTITI]

If you cheated on your spouse would you tell them?

I GOT 2 WORDS....... HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T ASK Y JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.:eusa_ange :eusa_ange

[Virus]

I GOT 2 WORDS....... HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T ASK Y JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR ITlol, he/she sounds like a beater :rofl:

[homey]

I GOT 2 WORDS....... HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! DON'T ASK Y JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.:eusa_ange :eusa_ange


There R 2 options here:

1. If you love and respect your spouse and do not want to end your marriage, take your secret to the grave. Would you really want to hurt your spouse with your betryal. Trust me the guilt you feel after will be punishment enough.

2. If you want to end your marriage, by all means tell your spouse.

[ramesh]

Telling your spouse that you cheated can end a marriage, but if the relationship is strong (please note: very strong) the marriage CAN endure.

For reference, please watch the movie "The Firm".

[Twinkie]

Confession:

I lied in the first part of my post in the "Are you freaky" thread.

[root_gal]

Telling someone that you cheated on them is mainly to make you feel better and clear your conscience, it won't do them any good. If they absolutely don't need to know then what is the point of ruining a perfectly good relationship by telling them about one stupid indiscretion that you made. If you really want to make things right and you care about them a lot, then keep it to yourself and don't do it again.

[Twinkie]

Telling someone that you cheated on them is mainly to make you feel better and clear your conscience, it won't do them any good. If they absolutely don't need to know then what is the point of ruining a perfectly good relationship by telling them about one stupid indiscretion that you made. If you really want to make things right and you care about them a lot, then keep it to yourself and don't do it again.

:eusa_shhh :sold: :eusa_shif

[Virus]

If they absolutely don't need to know:eusa_snoo Women..

Might work on Mario Winans or Diddy, but the second i find out all hell break loose :crazyeyes:

If you really want to make things right and you care about them a lotStick a pin at "if you wanna make things right". If u wanna make things right its best you leave.

Recommendation: Listen "The Rain" by Orange "Juice" Jones
That song was made for some of you..

[Justice]

I had a GF who cheated on me and confessed to me that she did. We had sex two more times that evening and when I reached home I told her that the relationship wouldn’t work out.

If I cheat that would simply mean that I no longer love my woman in which case I would definitely need to tell her I cheated.

Cheating is not a mistake. There is too much in the process to go through to commit the act for it to be considered a mistake and so I can’t forgive anybody for cheating.

[acidblade]

Cheating is not a mistake. There is too much in the process to go through to commit the act for it to be considered a mistake and so I can’t forgive anybody for cheating.

:sold: :eusa_clap :eusa_clap :eusa_clap :eusa_clap

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Cheating is not a mistake. There is too much in the process to go through to commit the act for it to be considered a mistake and so I can’t forgive anybody for cheating.

Mistake as defined by http://www.dictionary.com

1. an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.
2. a misunderstanding or misconception.
–verb (used with object)
3. to regard or identify wrongly as something or someone else: I mistook him for the mayor.
4. to understand, interpret, or evaluate wrongly; misunderstand; misinterpret.
–verb (used without object)
5. to be in error.

Cheating is a mistake. It may not be a accident, but it is a mistake. If God forgives us for all the rotten things we do, then if we should be able to forgive someone who cheats on us too. Those who seek to follow God's word should also seek God's help in forgiving others.

It's definitely not easy, but it is possible. I know couples who have gone through the infidelity thing, and forgave, and have an even better and stronger relationship now than they did before.

[Justice]

Mistake as defined by http://www.dictionary.com


Cheating is a mistake. It may not be a accident, but it is a mistake. If God forgives us for all the rotten things we do, then if we should be able to forgive someone who cheats on us too. Those who seek to follow God's word should also seek God's help in forgiving others.

It's definitely not easy, but it is possible. I know couples who have gone through the infidelity thing, and forgave, and have an even better and stronger relationship now than they did before.


So I guess you got me on semantics. I will correct myself and say that I have forgiven my X for cheating, I just haven’t forgotten and that is where the problem lies in most relationship. You see people will forgive but it’s very hard to forget. Men are cocky and to know that another man play up in ‘you girl thing’ is something very hard to live down.

[root_gal]

:eusa_snoo Women..

Might work on Mario Winans or Diddy, but the second i find out all hell break loose :crazyeyes:

Stick a pin at "if you wanna make things right". If u wanna make things right its best you leave.

Recommendation: Listen "The Rain" by Orange "Juice" Jones
That song was made for some of you..

I was going off the idea that the person would not find out in the 1st place. And how would leaving make things right? I was just saying that there is no point in destroying the person's trust in you in the first place by telling them, especially if they would not find out otherwise.

[mik-hotbod]

yes i would tell them, rather than waiting for them to find out.
what the point not telling them in the first place if ur just going to wait till they find out and then apologise, and even then u might have to fes up to more than u the one they found out about

[Manu]

Let me tell you soemthing..... if you cheat.... never ever in a million years confess unless you are going to end the relationship. No matter how much it eats at you.... no matter what. Yes I'm talking from experience. You may think they forgive you but they never truly will and they never really will trust you and you never will trust them. If you can't keep it to yourself or you can't make sure they never ever find out....then here's a tip..... DON'T DO IT!!!

You were warned!

[root_gal]

Let me tell you soemthing..... if you cheat.... never ever in a million years confess unless you are going to end the relationship. No matter how much it eats at you.... no matter what. Yes I'm talking from experience. You may think they forgive you but they never truly will and they never really will trust you and you never will trust them. If you can't keep it to yourself or you can't make sure they never ever find out....then here's a tip..... DON'T DO IT!!!

You were warned!

:eusa_clap :eusa_clap :eusa_clap :sold:

[acidblade]

:o :o :eusa_eh: :eusa_thin :o