relationship advice

[Twinkie]

I want some advise, I went to this dating and marriage discussion held at my church on Monday night. It was pretty good as in not boring. Many points were made, some hit home while some I laughed at. There was this one point that still resonates within me. That if you take your dating relationship now, magnify it by 5 or even 10, then that's how your marriage will be. I've done this and have come to realise that, this person and I will not get married, despite my earlier predictions. What to do?

End it? Stay until I find another? Any and all advice please.

***Maybe I should have put this in family and relationships?

[Manu]

Put it in the right place and then I'll respond ;)

[Twinkie]

Yeah yeah yeah, Mr. Mod, will you move my post please or should I do so myself?

[Gwadinka]

Just one question Twinkie, when you enter a relationship do you always think of getting married with that person?Do you systematically imagine your lover as your husband or not?

[Cocoa]

I want some advise, I went to this dating and marriage discussion held at my church on Monday night. It was pretty good as in not boring. Many points were made, some hit home while some I laughed at. There was this one point that still resonates within me. That if you take your dating relationship now, magnify it by 5 or even 10, then that's how your marriage will be. I've done this and have come to realise that, this person and I will not get married, despite my earlier predictions. What to do?

End it? Stay until I find another? Any and all advice please.

***Maybe I should have put this in family and relationships?As I said before, you are not married yet so you don't know how the relationship/marriage will be.

But if you are in a relationship that you think will not work out, then I don't think you should be in it anymore.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

That if you take your dating relationship now, magnify it by 5 or even 10, then that's how your marriage will be.
Could you clarify what you mean by this statement please?

[Twinkie]

Just one question Twinkie, when you enter a relationship do you always think of getting married with that person?Do you systematically imagine your lover as your husband or not?

Nope, sometimes it really just about the *ahem* act. But this relationship had me dreaming of wedding bells. There were certain husband like qualities that he possessed, so I couldn't help but imagine coming home to cook his dinner 3 evenings out of the week.


Could you clarify what you mean by this statement please??

I suppose magnify would also mean multiply. So, if we argue three times a week after marriage we would argue 15 times per week. I presume if he's loving and affectionate he will be five times more affectionate and loving when we get married.

[g2cris]

Do you magnify the bad and good or just the bad.

Because if marraige means say mi get more ahem as you put it mi soon gone.

[nuhsenutten]

i dont think the magnifying of the dating would paint a true picture of the person in marriage...as the person may compromise to make sure the relationship lasts...........ppl tend to change ....for better or for worst ...thru.....ok u get the point ....in marriage :D

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Nope, sometimes it really just about the *ahem* act.
:eusa_snoo
Why is a decent church going girl like yourself letting her carnal nature rule her like that?


But this relationship had me dreaming of wedding bells. There were certain husband like qualities that he possessed, so I couldn't help but imagine coming home to cook his dinner 3 evenings out of the week.
Like what qualities? What do you think marriage is all about? There's a lot more to it than cooking meals 3 days out of the week and having sex.


I suppose magnify would also mean multiply. So, if we argue three times a week after marriage we would argue 15 times per week. I presume if he's loving and affectionate he will be five times more affectionate and loving when we get married.
Ok. I don't know about all that magnification argument, but I do know that if you didn't get along before marriage, then marriage isn't going to make it better.

Marriage is a serious thing. Relationships are supposed to be serious things. My advice is to get to know people before you take the serious step of commiting to them, and don't get intimate until you are both committed to each other in marriage (that's the only real commitment - anything else has too easy an exit clause). That makes life a lot less complicated.

If you take the view that marriage is the ultimate goal of your relationship, then you will be more careful in your choices and interactions. You will have to know what you are getting into and will have to decide whether the relationship is such that you can see yourself commiting to it for the rest of your life, and sacrificing for it.

[Trickster]

BCK I really like ur style. Few ppl drop it like its hot the way u do. Can i come 2 u if i got issues n need some advice?

[BlackCryptoKnight]

BCK I really like ur style. Few ppl drop it like its hot the way u do.
Alrighty then... :eusa_shif


Can i come 2 u if i got issues n need some advice?
Sure.

[Trickster]

Alrighty then... :eusa_shif


Sure.


Ok lets get down 2 bizz i got 5 problems at the moment

1.Just kidding.

Thanx

[babyj]

What happen to the traditional courting before even entering into an intimate relationship?