Why do women send mixed signals?

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Why is it that many women don't communicate their thoughts clearly but instead send mixed messages? Why don't they just speak out straight? :eusa_thin

[Cocoa]

Look like seh yu have a whole lot on yu mind man; yu a run the thread dem red! LOL

Anyway, I don't send mix signals. I come straight out with it. I'll write letters, send a telegram, talk on the phone or in person, act it out....talk (oh I said that already). No mixed signals here.

I am a communicator.

I would think that the ones who send out these mixed signals, are the ones who are not too sure about something or just not mature enough to manoeuver her thoughts.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Look like seh yu have a whole lot on yu mind man; yu a run the thread dem red! LOL

Anyway, I don't send mix signals. I come straight out with it. I'll write letters, send a telegram, talk on the phone or in person, act it out....talk (oh I said that already). No mixed signals here.

I am a communicator.

I would think that the ones who send out these mixed signals, are the ones who are not too sure about something or just not mature enough to manoeuver her thoughts.

The classic case is the girl who has a guy interested in her, and sometimes acts as if she is interested, then other times she acts as if he has the plague. How's he supposed to figure out what's going on? :eusa_thin

[Cocoa]

Man that rough. I would ask if I was the man.
I don't know when a guy is interested even though the obvious might be true.
I would ask, just come out with it and ignore this woman's expressions of plaguerism :D

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Then there's the "I'm upset with you but I'm not telling you why" routine.
If you ask why, you're told "If you don't know why, I'm not telling you" followed by the storming off and the slamming door.

[Cocoa]

I don't know BCk. Maybe you need to ask the women who does these things.

I guess sometimes some women just expect men to be mind readers and just 'know' when something is wrong. Women like to be sought after, so I would think that the woman is waiting for you to come and comfort her. Pet her hair, tel her you like/love her, kiss her on the lips and calm her down, before you can 'hear' the reason for all the commotion.

[MiTcHiE]

its simple actually. They need to see if u have sense, if u can analyse the situation, and to play with our minds. Mind games is a tactic used by some women, just to be ahead of the male in the game. Dont forget that some women enjoy seeing u clueless and helpless, it makes us guys more vulnerable to fall in their web. U have to look at this like a game.

Almost every girl that I have been with, while courting her she will go through a phase which will cause u to wonder if she is really interested or not. They just want to test ur determination. They luv to be wanted and pursued, it makes them feel good. Its that simple. They dont want a guy that will give up and run away at the first sign of trouble. They want a guy that will go after what he wants and who is determined in his aims.

[MiTcHiE]

BCK I am worried about u. If I assumed that ur recent posts are about u or is affecting u, then I guess u going through a ruff period. Just keep the head up.

[Cocoa]

Almost every girl that I have been with, while courting her she will go through a phase which will cause u to wonder if she is really interested or not. Do I sense a pattern? Just maybe you or these men are attracting the wrong women.


They just want to test ur determination. They luv to be wanted and pursued, it makes them feel good. Its that simple. They dont want a guy that will give up and run away at the first sign of trouble. They want a guy that will go after what he wants and This is so true in many aspects.

[MiTcHiE]

Not attracting the wrong women Jacocoabutter but is just that during courting a time of uncertainty is bound to occur. This uncertainty is brought on by summen that the girl did or said or acted. I know for a fact that a girl will pick up when a guy is unsure. Is like women can sense uncertainty, after this has been sensed the woman will then go in for the kill and use this as a test.

Remember in my earlier post, Its all a game.

[Cocoa]

Mitch, games require you to have players. And there is a competition and a team (gender) must win....so is it all still a game?
Just tickling your mind a lil.

[MiTcHiE]

Mitch, games require you to have players. And there is a competition and a team (gender) must win....so is it all still a game?
Just tickling your mind a lil.

Yes it is still a game. If the guy walks away at the first sign of trouble or is easily flustered or lacking the required confidence, then the woman has exerted her dominance and proved her suspicions of the man being not up to the challenge and therefore she walks away with her head high and holding a trophy to remember her dominance.

On the other hand if the guy analyses the situation and plays the game with the woman then he will be victorious. He will walk away with the respect of the woman. Which is the most important factor in this game of courting.

So yes it is still a game. Both genders trying to prove a point.

[Cocoa]

Oh ok I see.

One more thing, don't you think games are for children?

[MiTcHiE]

Oh ok I see.

One more thing, don't you think games are for children?

Not these kinda games. In my opinion it is not seen that way by many Jamaican women also.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

BCK I am worried about u. If I assumed that ur recent posts are about u or is affecting u, then I guess u going through a ruff period. Just keep the head up.


:icon_lol: Thanks for the concern Mitchie, but there's no need to fret. I'm just playing :icon_twis advocate

[BlackCryptoKnight]

:icon_lol: Thanks for the concern Mitchie, but there's no need to fret. I'm just playing :icon_twis advocate


I rhymed :D

[Cocoa]

I rhymed lol, your sick! lol :cool:

[Arch_Angel]

But aren't these games good way to find out about what kind of person you are? Don't animals play these games as well, to see if a mate is able to take care of them?

Pups, baby tigers, baby lions, play with thier brothers and sisters. Out of the playing they learn how to fight and to defend themselves. They gain skills by playing.
Not to mention babies play with toys to learn basic motoring skills, building skills etc. Point is that they learn from the playing.

I think it's a highly intelligent game some, if not most, women play when it comes to getting into a relationship with a guy.

Right now, I'm in the same game with my girlfriend. Even though we have been together for 2 years, she is still playing with me, seeing how I react to certain signals she gives. I'm actually learning to look out for these signals and read them appropriately. And I think I am doing well on them. Although I have failed one or two. lol

That's how women are made. :D

[RobyG]

MiTcHiE is basically correct but sounds like he is more or less talking about younger women.

However, as women mature and get older they become more vocal and play less games.
Not calling you, Jacocoabutter, old but calling you mature and settled ;)

[Cocoa]

Thanks RG, cause I am not into the games thing. Sound like when I was a child living in Jamaica and playing bend down stucky.

The thing is I am a little unsure about the games some women play on you gents. Can someone enlightened my darkness some more?

[deakie]

when they start an argument with a topic not related.
when they subtley try and get you to admit to something you havent done.
when they ask you if you think they have gained weight or look good etc.

there is a long list of games women play.

best way is to go on the offensive and catch em off gaurd.....then they spend the rest of the day wondering whats wrong and you get to relax. :icon_twis

[Cocoa]

So basically, what you gents are saying is:
Women sending out mixed signals is their way of playing games?

[MiTcHiE]

Yes basically. As I said before, its a test basically.

[MiTcHiE]

So basically, what you gents are saying is:
Women sending out mixed signals is their way of playing games?

Y r u typing in bold, r u getting upset??

[Cocoa]

No not upset. Just a different font.
Donn't think I am playing a game either, cause I am not. Just using different font. If I was shouting or getting upset, all of that would have been in bold type.

Now back to the discussion. :D

[Greatis]

its simple actually. They need to see if u have sense, if u can analyse the situation, and to play with our minds. Mind games is a tactic used by some women, just to be ahead of the male in the game. Dont forget that some women enjoy seeing u clueless and helpless, it makes us guys more vulnerable to fall in their web. U have to look at this like a game.

Almost every girl that I have been with, while courting her she will go through a phase which will cause u to wonder if she is really interested or not. They just want to test ur determination. They luv to be wanted and pursued, it makes them feel good. Its that simple. They dont want a guy that will give up and run away at the first sign of trouble. They want a guy that will go after what he wants and who is determined in his aims.

Very true MiTcHiE so true... Women really like the position of power and most of the times well their power is having a male come along cluelessly

[Greatis]

MiTcHiE is basically correct but sounds like he is more or less talking about younger women.

However, as women mature and get older they become more vocal and play less games.
Not calling you, Jacocoabutter, old but calling you mature and settled ;)

Very true Roby mature and settled is a nice way to put but true... Older women already know what they want and are more intent on a serious relationship... from experience they have realized that communication is by far the better way...

[MiTcHiE]

What about the mature women who r have experience with immature guys or who have had bad experiences with guys?? They play games. They need to test the guy. They cant afford to meet up on the wrong kind of guy. All women play games, there is no exception.

[Cocoa]

Originally posted by Greatis: from experience they have realized that communication is by far the better way... Well there are the few like my self, who have realised and KNOW that communication is by far the best way in a relationship.

I know sometimes why guys say I talk too much (not a chatterbox, just talk alot), but I have to talk it allllllll out.

[Cocoa]

What about the mature women who r have experience with immature guys or who have had bad experiences with guys?? They play games. They need to test the guy. They cant afford to meet up on the wrong kind of guy. All women play games, there is no exception.Maybe Mitchie you have been steering your wheel of love in the wrong direction. Do I sense some animosity? :eusa_thin

[MiTcHiE]

LOL Not at all, I only approach older women. Never been with a girl my age or younger.

Its just that with my experience, old, young women, they are all the same in terms of the games they play.

[Greatis]

same here MiTcHiE, it's just that my experiences are the opposite... Older womem that I have as friends tend to like to discuss and talk out things... Of course you still have the ones that play games but the majority that I've dealt with are communicators...

[Cocoa]

So what you gents are saying is that older women are better communicators. You may say the majority rules, but there is always the small minority of younger women that are serious communicators. The ones that is not sending out any mixed signals or playing games. :icon_redf

[Arch_Angel]

So what you gents are saying is that older women are better communicators. You may say the majority rules, but there is always the small minority of younger women that are serious communicators. The ones that is not sending out any mixed signals or playing games. :icon_redf
You think guys would be able to deal with a woman who tells it like how it is and doesn't send mixed signals?

[Cocoa]

You think guys would be able to deal with a woman who tells it like how it is and doesn't send mixed signals?
That would lead to another thread A_A, "guys who don't know what to do with a communicator" :icon_idea

I think the mature ones would be able to deal with it. I hate the beating around the bush thing. I mean if you have something to say, say it. Let's talk about it. A guy who doesn't want to receive from a woman like that I would think is intimidated, a little weak and lack some major 'mantism' in his life. Need to grow up then.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

I tend to think the for the most part, women are very good communicators. It's just that their communications to men many times are designed to confuse and befuddle. I think they get a good laugh from seeing that mixed up look on a guys face as he's trying to figure out at which point the conversation headed downhill, and what it is he's not to say to make it slide any further.

[Cocoa]

I don't get a laugh at all, my ears are open to hear and listen. If more females were like this, then these men would be less intimidated.

[Bashment Girl]

I don't send mixed signals.. I am flirty pon uh whole, uh nuh my fault dat.... but mi mek a man know wha gwan. If mi like im... mi mek im know.... if mi nuh reallt tek tuh im now... mi neva lead nobody on. True mi flirty though :D

[BlackCryptoKnight]

I don't send mixed signals.. I am flirty pon uh whole, uh nuh my fault dat.... but mi mek a man know wha gwan. If mi like im... mi mek im know.... if mi nuh reallt tek tuh im now... mi neva lead nobody on. True mi flirty though :D

So basically, you send mixed signals ... :icon_mrgr

[Bashment Girl]

So basically, you send mixed signals ... :icon_mrgr


lol lol lol if you say so! :rolleyes: I am flirtatious by nature, but I do not lead people on. How far you take the flirting is key... also I seldom initiate it.. I'll play along but if I see it's being taken further than I want it to.... then I lock it off.

To me sending MIXED SIGNALS intails making a person believe the situation is one way.. when it in fact isn't.... I don't do that. :eusa_snoo

[BlackCryptoKnight]

You think guys would be able to deal with a woman who tells it like how it is and doesn't send mixed signals?

Of course they can. It would make life much easier.

[acidblade]

Of course they can. It would make life much easier.
quite so. :eusa_clap

[Truthbearer]

nah it would be alot easier to play along...that would be more fun

[Gillion]

nah it would be alot easier to play along...that would be more fun
Is this your idea of fun ?


http://what-the-hell-is-hell.com/fire2.jpg

[KriTikaL]

Why is it that many women don't communicate their thoughts clearly but instead send mixed messages? Why don't they just speak out straight? :eusa_thin
what kinda mixed signals???
Like flirting but they're not intrested?
or like nodding when they mean no??????????

[KriTikaL]

well you'll probably never kno anyways.... if you ask them they're gonna give you a mixed answer :eusa_wall

[Truthbearer]

Is this your idea of fun ?


http://what-the-hell-is-hell.com/fire2.jpg

nope...dont recall a scene like that from warcraft