Do you talk about your sexual experiences?

[InkyP1]

Do you talk about your sexual experiences with your friends, man or women and tell them graphic details of your sexual life. Do you have a problem with it or do you feel comfortable talking about your sex life with friends?

[Arch_Angel]

I sure know my neighbour loved to talk about his sexual experiences with me. It was like he conquered something. And he was telling his victory stories to me.

But I wouldn't and I won't. What I do with my wife (when i am married) in our bedroom, stays there.

[Greatis]

@ Arch what if you were not married and you were just hmmm knocking a girl?

[Arch_Angel]

@ Arch what if you were not married and you were just hmmm knocking a girl?
Uhmm, can't give any good comment on that as I won't be in that situation. :)

But hypothetically speaking :rolleyes: , I wouldn't. What is the point of sharing your sexual experiences or conquests with other guys? Isn't it to gain some sexual power and recognition from your fellow guys? I am secure in my manhood. Don't need any recognition.

And if I cared about the girl at all, I wouldn't do it.

[Cocoa]

Well a man going on and on to another man about his sexual experience is kinna weird to me ...(unless he is having a problem in the bedroom and needs help). But a woman labba labbing on to another is pretty normal.

Wouldn't say I would tell all the A B C and 1 2 3 of the relationship, but mostly would tell my good friend about the extremely good stuff that I might have experienced.

Sharing a moment of bliss is not bad now and then. ;)

[Pondadat]

Well well well, hmmmmmmm, it depends. In a group of women no I don't tell what I be doing in the bedrooom with my man. No! Maybe me and my really
really good friend and Im still not going to tell her everything. I learned from older women dont tell all your business to nobody, because some women want try and find out how it really is. you understand. And you say not a good friend wouldnt do that. Thats the whole point. You trusted her as a good friend and told her everything. You see and she decided. she really liked that idea and wanted it for herself. It happens all the time. So no if we just talkin general nasty talk. Ok fine. But no Im not tellin what my man does with me and what I do with him. No Way!!!! :eusa_snoo

[Arch_Angel]

You tell 'em Ponda!! :)

[Cocoa]

You trusted her as a good friend and told her everything. You see and she decided. she really liked that idea and wanted it for herself. It happens all the time. True ting dat Pondadat..... the flesh will fail you sometimes and turn around be a back stabber. Happened to me before and so I just louw the girl wid de dude zeen since she "fell in love" wid mi stories.

Keep the mout shut more time.

[AngelsKiss]

I must be weird, I can never understand why any one would want to discuss something as personal as their sex live, not even with my closest friend, but then again, I am a very private person, so some topics are are off limits ;)

[BlackCryptoKnight]

I think there's a time and place for everything. The time to discuss details of your intimate relations is when you are talking with your partner. Sharing those things with other people violates the your partners privacy and can harm the relationship.

Men especially don't like women talking about personal things to their friends.
Some guys will talk things to their friends but will spin it in a hyped up way to look good.

I think if you care about your partner, you'll respect their privacy and the sanctity of the relationship.

[Cocoa]

Men especially don't like women talking about personal things to their friends.I think if you care about your partner, you'll respect their privacy and the sanctity of the relationshipAs I grow and mature I realise this to be true and respected the privacy of a mate and I.

[Drew]

well i don't talk about my sexual experiences with none of my friends. if a certain lady friend asks i would tell her some details. no names nothing too in depth. but i don't go around saying hey i did this girl and i did that girl, and she did this and she did that.

i'm a private person, and that is a top secret matter not to be discussed publicly.

[TRUBBLE]

I do but only to certain people..an mi don;t always give a whole heap of details...don;t see anything wrong with it!

[acidblade]

i tell my female friends hoping they will get turned on and want me :haha:

[bernie]

you are such idiot!:eusa_sile :eusa_shif

[acidblade]

you are such idiot!:eusa_sile :eusa_shif
:eusa_pray talk to him oh lord and mek him lef mi post dem :eusa_pray

[BlackCryptoKnight]

i tell my female friends hoping they will get turned on and want me :haha:
My gosh! You must be one lonely fellow. :haha:

[acidblade]

My gosh! You must be one lonely fellow. :haha:
:icon_cry: lonely won't leave me alone, why tell me why, lonely won't let me fall in love :icon_cry:

[Manu]

Men talk about flings...but not things with their bonafide. Women do the same, atleast the ones I know.

[pogi_2nr]

Only to my best friend.. and it always grosses her out :eusa_shif

[bernie]

Only to my best friend.. and it always grosses her out :eusa_shif
well frks tend to gross ppl out:eusa_sile

[pogi_2nr]

well frks tend to gross ppl out:eusa_sile
what does this have to do with me?

My mommy always told me that if I didn't have anything nice to say that I shouldn't say anyting at all. :eusa_snoo

[Twinkie]

I write my fiance letters telling him about the sex as if he wasn't there or if he was one of my girlfriends. This way he knows what I really think of it, he knows what not and to do next time, while boosting his ego.

I've come across females who want to "experiment" with mi peeps cause the description was so good! YIKES!! :icon_eek:

[crushed@caribyard.com]

Ceicile has a song about it not being her fault she took her friend man away, it was that the friend kept bragging about how good her man was, she wanted2 experiece it so she went after him tek him whe from the friend...That can happen. But my main reason4 thinking it is wrong2 discuss with others is because its an intimate thing between2 people, personal and ting and thats how it should be kept.But nuff people learn from others experience but i could not discuss something like that with others.

[Gillion]

I write my fiance letters telling him about the sex as if he wasn't there or if he was one of my girlfriends. This way he knows what I really think of it, he knows what not and to do next time, while boosting his ego.

I've come across females who want to "experiment" with mi peeps cause the description was so good! YIKES!! :icon_eek:
expetiment with who your fiance ?

[root_gal]

I hate when ppl are too explicit about what goes on in their sex life. I mean if ur man "pump u up tilll u bleed" n all that crap, is it really necessary to talk about it with anyone except ur doctor, I mean come on!

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Do people realize or care how bad it makes them look when they make private information public? It seems that as time passes, people care less and less about respecting the privacy of a relationship.

[Twinkie]

I hate when ppl are too explicit about what goes on in their sex life. I mean if ur man "pump u up tilll u bleed" n all that crap, is it really necessary to talk about it with anyone except ur doctor, I mean come on!
WTF????????????? :rotflm:

Do people realize or care how bad it makes them look when they make private information public? It seems that as time passes, people care less and less about respecting the privacy of a relationship.

:icon_redf

:thumbsdown:

[Manu]

Private life...No!
Love life... as in bedroom....no!

SEX LIFE....HELLS YES! I mean, who doesn't? :confused:

If it's just sex, its worth mentioning. :icon_mrgr :rofl: :rotflm:

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Sex is supposed to be an intimate private experience between two people. What good is done by broadcasting intimate details to the world serve? What's the point?

[Manu]

Sex... is sex!

It's everywhere! You are mistaking sex for making love. Sex is just an act... to facillitate procreation. Sex in itself is meaningless and only serves for gratification purposes and is probably the reason why some people are able to be so disconnected when having sex. Sex is purely instinctive and you can make love without even having sex. That is why it is so easy to exploit it but you can't really exploit love. When you take advantage of someone who loves you, you're not exploiting love, you're exploiting yourself. It's a matter of perception really so get your head right so you don't get caught napping.


Peace! :cool:

[Nika_869]

I never discuss my man's good or weak points with my friends. If we are having a general convo, and questions arise, then we speak. We do not disclose names, nor do we disclose dates. If you experience something, and someone wants tips, then we discuss. This is between my female/male friends and I.

When it came to my man, very little discussion happened. He just knew me well enough to know what and where. Of course you will sit down and discuss limitations and reasons for it etc.

[Manu]

Maybe I need to make a clearer distinction... one which BCK probably can not fathom since he may not have experienced it. I'm talking sex with people other than your present mate. Depending on circumstances of breakup in past relationships, it may be cool or not be cool to disclose your sexual experiences with them. I think girls can talk about what their guys and them are doing now but I don't think guys should discuss their girlfriends with their male friends. It seems tacky and the last thing you want is your friends ogling your girlfriend because they know what she is capable of. :thumbsdown:

Summer flings, one night stands.... short term hookups.... i guess thats all fair game.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Sex is supposed to be sacred. The fact that many people diminish its perceived value doesn't mean that it really has no value, as is the popular perception.

Whether in a committed relationship or not, sex is an intimate event between individuals. If you respect an individual, you won't reveal what is private to them.

If you are willing to disrespect them by revealing what is intimate and private, then why bond with them in that way in the first place? What sense does it make to bond with a person who you don't respect? Then there is respect for self. What does it say about you if you bond with others then cheapen the act further by disclosing details to all and sundry?

That kind of living can't be fulfilling.

[Nika_869]

Sex is supposed to be sacred. The fact that many people diminish its perceived value doesn't mean that it really has no value, as is the popular perception.

Making love, is sacred, sex, as we know it, is just the act used to satisfy temporary and lustful desires.


whether in a committed relationship or not, sex is an intimate event between individuals. If you respect an individual, you won't reveal what is private to them.

If you are willing to disrespect them by revealing what is intimate and private, then why bond with them in that way in the first place? What sense does it make to bond with a person who you don't respect? Then there is respect for self. What does it say about you if you bond with others then cheapen the act further by disclosing details to all and sundry?

That kind of living can't be fulfilling.

Uh huh....ok.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Making love, is sacred, sex, as we know it, is just the act used to satisfy temporary and lustful desires.


The sex act is supposed to be sacred. It has just been corrupted and devalued by the bahaviour of many.

[Nika_869]

The sex act is supposed to be sacred. It has just been corrupted and devalued by the bahaviour of many.

So, what do u call what takes place between a man and his wife?

[Manu]

So BCK... what do insects, fungi and bacteria do? Don't they have sex? What makes their act different from ours? Emotions right?! Well unfortunately, you can't share those emotions with everybody but you can swap body fluids with just about anyone. As I said... sex is not significant in itself so you can do as will with it. I'd like to think you have never had sex but share something much deeper with your spouse rather than associate with the same thing as what a prostitute does. I know I do...

[Twinkie]

Manu the biologist always :dwl:

[bernie]

Being a christian, I do agree with BCK. The bible never differenciates between sex and love making, in fact, it regards sex as the sacred act. We choose to formulate cunning logics to justify our disregard for the truth many times.

[Nika_869]

So BCK... what do insects, fungi and bacteria do? Don't they have sex? What makes their act different from ours? Emotions right?! Well unfortunately, you can't share those emotions with everybody but you can swap body fluids with just about anyone. As I said... sex is not significant in itself so you can do as will with it. I'd like to think you have never had sex but share something much deeper with your spouse rather than associate with the same thing as what a prostitute does. I know I do...

:icon_lol: You are right dear.

[Manu]

Being a christian, I do agree with BCK. The bible never differenciates between sex and love making, in fact, it regards sex as the sacred act. We choose to formulate cunning logics to justify our disregard for the truth many times.


Hmmm... and who wrote the bible? Man! And what about translation into terms which modern day people can understand? Didn't Adam "know" Eve and begat Cain? Come on Bernie.

And BCk, if I'm out of line for mentioning your spouse, my apologies. It was just to make an example. You can edit my post as you wish but just know my intentions are never to insult you or your family.

[Nika_869]

Being a Christian, I do agree with BCK. The bible never differentiates between sex and love making, in fact, it regards sex as the sacred act. We choose to formulate cunning logics to justify our disregard for the truth many times.


No the bible does not, but the man who was in part responsible for introducing the bible to Europe and the world, or men as some may say, they themselves did not differentiate between it. They had sex with whomever, and were not prone to being the bible they so put forward. The change in thinking came about due to some ppl being offended by the though that what took place was just sex. Sort of romanticizing the concept. Hence the term.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

For humans, sex is supposed to sacred and have meaning. The fact that it can be done outside of that context doesn't mean that it is supposed to be done outside that context. We can kill each other at will, that doesn't mean that we should. Human life is special. The fact that some don't treat it as such doesn't mean that it isn't.

Sex bonds people together. That is what it was designed to do. It was meant to bond husband and wife together. We weren't meant to just do whatever we want with regards to sex.

I guess if people don't see sex as sacred then there is not much standing in the way of them discussing their intimate details with others. Worse if they don't really care about the persons they become intimate with.

[recursion]

We choose to formulate cunning logics to justify our disregard for the truth many times.

If logic could be used to solve these problems we wouldn't be in this situation. Language is what is causing the problem here so I think it should be said that we are trying to be cunning linguists.

I really just wanted a reason to say cunning linguist

[silentburn]

BCK, I think its better for you to say that marriage is sacred.

Back to the topic of the thread. Obviously, people should not discuss sex in a crass manner, since so much emotions are attached to it. Yes, it is supposed to be a very personal activity.

On the other hand we are social beings, and its going to come up from time to time. People will have problems and will need advise, people may also be inexperienced and they can learn from such discussions. Ofcourse there will always be one or two, who will get kicks out of it or will make a mental note so they can use the info as ammunition in the future.

I think BCK is referring to the way in which sex is discussed. If sex is being discussed in a cognitive and anonymous manner its probably going to end up being educational more than anything else. Its best to use scenarios instead of recounting an actual encounter.

[Manu]

Good one recursion!

[nuhsenutten]

I dont usually talk about them except for one time when i was almost caught ...lol ....i can laugh today but at hte time i was fretting like a man about to die!

[Nika_869]

On the other hand we are social beings, and its going to come up from time to time. People will have problems and will need advise, people may also be inexperienced and they can learn from such discussions. Of course there will always be one or two, who will get kicks out of it or will make a mental note so they can use the info as ammunition in the future.

I think BCK is referring to the way in which sex is discussed. If sex is being discussed in a cognitive and anonymous manner its probably going to end up being educational more than anything else. Its best to use scenarios instead of recounting an actual encounter.


Exactly. Anonymous discussion is all fine. Everything you have said in this post, I agree with. However, if your friends are that comfortable, and choose to recount personal experiences then so be it. I know my friends have never used it as ammunition against me. When the topic has been discussed, only thing retained is tips.

[mystiqueone]

Well everyone is diffrent and they could justs be looking for some advice, it ok to discuss but not it so much graphic details

[Manu]

Why no graffic details? KISS TEET!!!

I want to know bout this bloody "barbwire twist"!!!

[mystiqueone]

well if you are close to that person and you trust them then be graphic more power to you

[Manu]

So no one knows about the barbwire twist? Go to you Youtube and search for "Stop call mi man...."


Warning: Strong Language...

[mystiqueone]

ok I will go check out that video

[Lisa20]

Not in details and not with every Dick, Tom, Harry, Maryjane, Sue,etc.

[Manu]

Lisa20??? You trying to tell us something? MaryJane and Sue? :icon_mrgr

[Lisa20]

Manu!!!!!!!!! NOT TO!!!!!!!!!!!!!