When is it time to leave home and live on your own?

[BlackCryptoKnight]

When is it time to leave the parental home and go live on your own? Is anything wrong with staying at home after one becomes an adult? How does the economic situation impact the decision as to whether to stay at home, or to leave? How does that decision impact ones social life?

[Twinkie]

When you are financilly capable to sustain yourself.

Yes, you become entirely too dependent on your parents, stressing them further than necessary and ultimately becoming LAZY!

It makes quite an impact. It makes no sense to leave, go out on your own when you can't afford it, only to move right back in??

If your parents are Christian like mine, it's hard to have a social life, despite age. They want you to respect their home and rules meaning come home at 12:00 and don't carry nobody dere to screw when they're not there...no social life!

[Malloc-X]

i plan on takin the house away fro my parents and send them to one of those places for old people

[bernie]

When you are financilly capable to sustain yourself.

Yes, you become entirely too dependent on your parents, stressing them further than necessary and ultimately becoming LAZY!

It makes quite an impact. It makes no sense to leave, go out on your own when you can't afford it, only to move right back in??

If your parents are Christian like mine, it's hard to have a social life, despite age. They want you to respect their home and rules meaning come home at 12:00 and don't carry nobody dere to screw when they're not there...no social life!
boy...i really do feel for your parents!!!!:eusa_pray

[Gillion]

When you are financilly capable to sustain yourself.

Yes, you become entirely too dependent on your parents, stressing them further than necessary and ultimately becoming LAZY!

It makes quite an impact. It makes no sense to leave, go out on your own when you can't afford it, only to move right back in??

If your parents are Christian like mine, it's hard to have a social life, despite age. They want you to respect their home and rules meaning come home at 12:00 and don't carry nobody dere to screw when they're not there...no social life!

OOOO lord ... you a one a dem dat hid and lick huh ?

squueeezzz out one before moomy and daddy come home ?

[bernie]

OOOO lord ... you a one a dem dat hid and lick huh ?

squueeezzz out one before moomy and daddy come home ?
a bad she bad
just imagine how much prayer and fasting har parents did haffi do fi har:icon_mrgr

[Bahama Mama]

When is it time to leave the parental home and go live on your own?

When one is financially self sustainable. Financially stable meaning that one doesnt have to make a U-turn back to the folks, except for extreme circumstances.



Is anything wrong with staying at home after one becomes an adult?

If we consider adulthood to start at the age of 18, being out of the parental home and being financially independant at the age is highly unlikely for most people. At that age, alot of individuals are entering into another phase of education most times financed by parents or partially at least. For those that do not go on to post secondary education, they are just trying to grapple with the 'real world' of working, saving, and budgeting. It normally takes a few more years to get a stable hold on one's life. Normally by the age of 25, alot of people have some firm and stable hold of their lives. So I will say no, there is nothing wrong with living with your parents until say your mid to late twenties. If you are 40 and still living at home, there may be some problems with initiative and discipline.


How does the economic situation impact the decision as to whether to stay at home, or to leave?

It impacts it alot. Like I said above, one wants to be financially stable enough so that when one leaves the parental home, it is a forward moving process.



How does that decision impact ones social life?
If you choose to stay at home, it depends on one's parents. Liberal minded parents may not mind 'over night guests', live in gf's and bf's, parties, etc. However if you have very conservative parents, that it is a different story.
Really I feel if you are going to live at home, one should be considerate as far as having intimate partners are concerned. Discretion is important, and to me it would really be a matter of respect. And if one actually gets married, then it would not be appropriate to still live with one's parents, absolutely not in my opinion. If you can afford to get married, one must be able to afford an apartment at least. There can only be one man and one woman of the house!

[Bahama Mama]

One also has to take into consideration cultural differences. In North America, many individuals leave the parental home and settle on their own starting as early as their late teens. Sometimes as a form of rebellion, or to soothe their desire for independance from their parents. Back home, alot of individuals dont leave the parental home until they are married, despite the fact that they may have kids already. For them a large extended family arrangement is financially more feasible, and safer, particularly if they are a single parent. In fact it is very rare back home that a single adult female in particular, with or without kids is going to live on her own, and to a slightly lesser extent males. As well being from a small island where one is always interacting with family esp. parents, grandparents, etc. it often becomes a comfortable situation.

[Madhacker]

i plan on takin the house away fro my parents and send them to one of those places for old people
:icon_eek: Your Comments never seizes to amaze me with all those derogatory things I will not have it :icon_twis

[ramesh]

.....when I'm 50.

[icuucme]

.....when I'm 50.LOLOLO ...DWL
...Ramesh, u a real joker :dwl:

[beezzybeez]

One also has to take into consideration cultural differences. In North America, many individuals leave the parental home and settle on their own starting as early as their late teens. Sometimes as a form of rebellion, or to soothe their desire for independance from their parents. Back home, alot of individuals dont leave the parental home until they are married, despite the fact that they may have kids already. For them a large extended family arrangement is financially more feasible, and safer, particularly if they are a single parent. In fact it is very rare back home that a single adult female in particular, with or without kids is going to live on her own, and to a slightly lesser extent males. As well being from a small island where one is always interacting with family esp. parents, grandparents, etc. it often becomes a comfortable situation.


Shoot i have friends who buy houses around the road from ther parents and are at thier parents home like every day or vica-versa.
But there is no set rules on when to leave the nest it just depends on the situation.

[Twinkie]

OOOO lord ... you a one a dem dat hid and lick huh ?

squueeezzz out one before moomy and daddy come home ?
:eusa_naug :eusa_naug :eusa_naug No no no no no! No picking on Twinkie. I was not speaking from experience, although it may come off that way.

And Bernie..you have no clue how much and I'm here with them, I would never dream of being out of their sight so that them kill off dem self with fretting!! :eusa_snoo

:dwl:

[pogi_2nr]

When the mommy bird thinks its time for the baby bird to leave the nest
the mommy bird will gently nudge baby bird out of the nest so baby can
fly and make its own life... or in my case when the mommy bird and baby
bird are at each others necks and the baby bird just leaves. :mad:

[Jae]

Ok, in the case where u don't live with ur parents. And everything you do is an argument. Even if you mistakenly put the juice infront of the water jar and it start an argument. Time to go!!!

Every chance the ppl u live with get, they remind u that u r 'kotchin'. For instance, this famous line, esp. used in ur presence, even when they know that u r the only one they could possibly be talking about- 'Mi will sen' everybaddy g'a dem yaad...blah di blah!!! Time to leave!!!.

When ur parents tell u to get out and offer their assistance in helping you pack. Bye bye, time to vacate the premises!!!

If you are 40 yrs old and you are living with your parents (not your parents living with you) for no special reason, say one of the ol' folks needs care cuz of illness. And u have a job an makin enough money to rent or buy a place 4urself. But still livin' scotch free. Ur behind need to get out!!! Sponge...Even if your parents claim they don't mind, move it. I think you owe them some free time, away from u.

******If you can't move out don't rush it, it's never wise to go out into the world unprepared. The fact is u will eventually have to, but say for instance u're 18/19, if you can avoid moving out, avoid it. Save, save and save, start being responsible from home. Help with the bills and stuff like that, so u can get a feel of what it's gonna be like living by yourself.It's a start*******

[g2cris]

I would never have left if i could have delt with travelling from country every day. NEVER.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Is there a difference in perception and accpetance of adult females still living at home as opposed to adult males still living at home?

[Jae]

Is there a difference in perception and accpetance of adult females still living at home as opposed to adult males still living at home?
Yea I guess there is, as usual some ppl don't really wanna put there 'little girl' out there so it's no problem for them if she stays there 'til whenever. While in order for boys to grow into men, they'll need to face the world head on....though u know like I said parents esp. the mommies don't wanna let go of their sons.
I just think that u need to leave the nest eventually.

[Sexysophie]

I think its time to leave home when u think u cant live by ur parents rules anymore and when u can afford it.


Also when u start getting or having kids.

[nuhsenutten]

when the time is right ......some ppl never leave..........im thinking bout 25 when u probably finished school and have a few yrs of work under your belt.....so u dont have to struggle to make it

[Twinkie]

Jae you deserve a standing ovation...if only I could find the emoticon to show you how proud I am of you and your emulating me! Gosh, you've made me immensely proud.

[Jae]

Jae you deserve a standing ovation...if only I could find the emoticon to show you how proud I am of you and your emulating me! Gosh, you've made me immensely proud.
What?????:eusa_eh: :eusa_eh: :eusa_eh: Sorry momentary lapse...I guess u r that 'little girl'???:icon_lol:

[Lisa20]

Well right now i am living free, no rent, no bills and my money stays in my pocket. But i think i will be leaving soon. Persons should leave when everytime there is an agruement you here " i was on my on from i was 13" and bear in mind you are in your twenties......time to go

[nuhsenutten]

lol....or mayb them say that cause them angry

[Twinkie]

What?????:eusa_eh: :eusa_eh: :eusa_eh: Sorry momentary lapse...I guess u r that 'little girl'???:icon_lol:

"Little Girl" or "That Little Voice In My Head" Whatever...:eusa_danc

[Jae]

"Little Girl" or "That Little Voice In My Head" Whatever...:eusa_danc
TWinkie u mad nuh hell enuh!!!:icon_eek: :eusa_pray

[nuhsenutten]

TWinkie u mad nuh hell enuh!!!:icon_eek: :eusa_pray
me think that goes for both of u

[Twinkie]

I tend to agree wholeheartedly! Jae...?

[Jae]

I tend to agree wholeheartedly! Jae...?
Yes I second, or is it third:eusa_thin that:icon_lol: :icon_lol:

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Is there a different standard for men and women on this issue? Is it ok for women to stay at home longer than men?

[Twinkie]

Men muss move out first, to get the feel for the "responsibility life," see how it feel to man up, so that when dem wide move in wid dem wives/baby-moddas/girlfriends/schoolmates dem not tripping ova dem self!!!

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Men muss move out first, to get the feel for the "responsibility life," see how it feel to man up, so that when dem wide move in wid dem wives/baby-moddas/girlfriends/schoolmates dem not tripping ova dem self!!!

Don't women need to experience true independence and the responsibilities of living too? Men aren't the only ones at risk of "tripping ova demself" when the begin to live with someone.

[Manu]

Men must move out first. Forget the equality clause. It is a double standard. Everybody knows that. Leave it be. It is what it is. There are some basic responsibility as a man which we must live up to and that is being a provider and protector. You should get your own space and then invite in your mate. Can't be independent without your own roof so if you want a woman... go find a hut.

Yes I have my own houses... don't watch me. Finances is what is important now.