helpers - good or bad idea??

[Drew]

helpers ease up the work on the parents, but the chidren not really learning to do housework for when they grow older. so, is having helpers a good or bad thing??

[Temptress]

Not the helper fault the children don't know how to pick up after themselves, if the parents made sure that they cleaned their rooms and pitched in around the house in addition to having the helper then they wouldn't be so wukliss.

[Jae]

Not so for everybody. When my ppl had a helper I still had to wash my own clothes, clean my own bathroom and room, and whatever else chores I was assigned. It was moreso for their benefit.
Though I used to cuss bout it when I was younger, nuh baddy can say mi hang dutty clothes pon line:icon_lol: :icon_lol:

[Izemi-Clem]

Hail

There is no way some families can survive without the "HELP" of these women whose contribution are unsung.
It is even harder to imagine for some, how families who can't afford thier services mangange without them.
Nurseries provide a suitable enough alternative but every parent will admit this is not the first option for child care, they (nurseries) are considered mainly for their services of providing early education.
When illness occurs, which will enivitabley happen (often too frequently) the parent or one of the parents will have to stay home with the child resulting in loss of income and productivity.

It is the responsibility of every parent to raise their children, unprepared parents will learn this quickly enough if they do learn this at all. Few will be lucky enough to find the right person who will be dedicated enough, has the right aptittude and the same values as they do, it is not uncommon for families to go through several helpers before they find one that they are comfortable with.

Consider that not every couple or single parent works a regular 9 to 5 job or has a job that is felixible enough to take time off everyday for pick up from either school or nursery. It is purely a mattter of ecomonics, talk to every mother you meet and they will admit to you that if they could afford to, they would rather stay home and raise their child or children themselves.
The implications are enormous if parents do not play their role properly, as family values are lost, the natural bonding which takes place between parent and child is non-existent, resulting in all they problems we can identify today.

But what are the options? Reverse women lib? Sacrifice your income and suffer the consequences of not being able to provide sufficiently for your child and yourself? Or DOAN BREED?

It is a matter of hoping for the best and preparing ourselves properly for parenthood, if we are lucky enough we will find someone who is suitable enough to provide our children with the care that they need, as well as us being able to afford their services. Those who can do better, will opt to do so if they can afford to have a parent staying home which would be ideal.

Izemi-Clem

[hebrew sista]

oh sorry i thought by helper you were meaning like someone to cut bush or the like.

where im staying, they have a i guess "gardener" but he dont work, he did chop bush yesterday for 1.5 hours, got a bee sting and retreated to his room (he lives here at the guest house), but im sure he still expects 8 hours pay for only working a short time.

and right after that sting, he showers, gets dressed and goes to town!!

ok remember im the guest right? well i had nothing to do so I GOT OUT THERE AND CHOPPED BUSH lol. boy that was fun! great way to lose weight lol and the path im working on looks rather nice.

call me crazy but you cant call me lazy!

[Drew]

but temptress, they wouldn't have to clean their rooms because the helper would've already done it. thinking about it, that give the children more time for homework, finish it early and more tv. kinda good and kinda bad isn't it.

so jae, what did your helper do at your house??

[Jae]

so jae, what did your helper do at your house??
She cooked during the week, washed clothes (just not mine:mad: ), cleaned the house (everywhere except my room and bathroom:mad: ) and whatever else she was expected to do.