Ladies what should guys do to catch your eyes?

[Drew]

ladies, so what should we do to catch your eyes??

[Greatis]

hmmm ladies a question was asked why aren't y'all answering?

:icon_ques

[Cocoa]

Just be yourself!

[Drew]

i'm starting threads and didn't even know. :confused:
anyway, i kno the answer.

cocoa, that ain't so easy. you think if we go up to you and say hi, how are you i'm this and that, we'll have your attention, no way. guys only wish it was that easy.

[philben]

I would agree with jacocoabutter. It is your trus self that should attrach us, not the one you put on.

[philben]

correction
'trus' = true

[Cocoa]

Yes but each woman is different. We take into account how you carry your self, dres, speak to us.

If you have a toothpick coched to the side of your mouth and your in bedtime shoes and jeans hanging down showing me the first thing you put on after a shower and you walking up to me talking bout "hey lil mama I would like to _ _ _" I wouldn't give you the time of day. Lots of roll eyes and direct speeches.I would give you the face and let you know up front what's up!

But if your approach is gentlemanly "hehe" and you have some class and say the righ tthings, then you just might find me liking you.

[philben]

LOL, and 'attrach' = attract , bwoy ah typing too fast! but that is patois anyhow!

[Pondadat]

Maybe its because we dont have a definite answer. It depends on you, if your shy then you are not going to meet people by not opening your mouth. So you first have to just be nice, just like you would do in meeting any person not just a woman. Hey Im not Dear Abby. or Dr. Ruth :) Its hard to give advice to someone and you dont know that persons personality. So I guess it just depends on you. Hey like I said what do I know? :icon_mrgr

[Drew]

ok, let me ask this, what is the best thing to say and do to approach a lady??

i got down the dress code. i'm a pretty good dresser, if i may say so myself.

[philben]

Well approaches can be different, some women think that a man coming up to her and telling her directly that he is interested is a big turn off, others like it, prefer it. how an approach is recieved is entirely up to the woman - however going up to introduce yourself and saying hello (with a good disposition) works anyday!

[Cocoa]

What's up drew? Some woman caught you eye? Need some tips ;)

You can also play it off with a 'help' line.... (woman carrying basket. basket too heavy, man walks up.."can I help you with that?") that can spark a conversation.

Or simply feel out the woman to see if she may be interested in even talkin to you or is she giving that 'face'?

[philben]

:icon_lol: Yeah, it seems drew is up to something, or eying someone! :icon_mrgr

[Drew]

i just find that ladies are making it so hard these days. its like if your not driving a nice car, or don't have an italian leather briefcase, and you don't sign restaurant bills with a fountain pen, you have no chance.

[Cocoa]

italian leather briefcaseDWL...oh God. Is this the happenings in Ja now or what? We call them gold diggers here.

But seriously though drew, be your self. Any woman who wants more than what you have to offer plus some, is not worth your time.

[philben]

That's not true drew! it may be the kind of woman that you're looking at or just a misconception.
sure, a woman wants security, but a good one knows that you having those things do not mean security - they could have been taken on loans and credit cards that are sucking you dry. Being yourself is also about living your means!

[Greatis]

Ladies if I may say so. Please ans individually. Ans telling what you would like to see in a guy approaching you. Don't try to give a general ans. Just ans with what you like to see.

[philben]

My answers are not too general - it does say what I'd like to see. some of the other things are quite intangible.

First if I see that he may want to approach, I may have already given him a score based on how he has put himself together. If he approaches me and says hello, offer to help me with something, or as on guy has done - bought me a plant because it was beautiful, and offered me the same compliment, it's ok. I could respond.

[Drew]

this site is getting really interesting.

i agree with you cocoa, ain't worth my time at all. thats why i said i can't be bothered to approach em. to much of a hassle.

[Cocoa]

No man, don't loose hope. Use your style..every man has their own style.

[philben]

I agree. use your own style.

[Chris]

...If you have a toothpick coched to the side of your mouth and your in bedtime shoes and jeans hanging down showing me the first thing you put on after a shower and you walking up to me talking bout "hey lil mama I would like to _ _ _" I wouldn't give you the time of day. Lots of roll eyes and direct speeches.I would give you the face and let you know up front what's up! ....But yet there are some "women" who would be flattered and start giving him vibes if he approached them like that. Don't believe me? Ask some women to show you their baby's father and they'll point put a guy looking just like that and the question you'll ask yourself is "what did she ever see in a guy like that?"

[Greatis]

:eusa_booh :eusa_whis "Why Do Good Girls, Like Bad Boys" :eusa_whis :eusa_booh

[Drew]

LMAO, dats so true chris. :icon_mrgr

[Drew]

..... why do good girls like bad guys, knowing that bad guys tell mad lies.

[Arch_Angel]

It doesn't matter if the guy is good or bad or if he tells lies. What matters to her is he is intrested, even if it is just for that moment.

There are some women who are fed up with guys and just want a guy. Any guy. Even if it goes against there better judgement. Not necessarily for sexual pleasure, but for love and protection. And because as they say "all the good guys are taken".

But there are some women who like bad boys just because they are bad. They don't want a good guy. ;)

[Greatis]

interesting Spin arch and true too

[Drew]

not all the good guys are taken A_A. is just the good ones gets taken advantage of, are called gay or just fed up. good guys get hurt, bad guys don't.

[philben]

Interesting comeback drew. are you a good guy? have you been hurt?

[Greatis]

not all the good guys are taken A_A. is just the good ones gets taken advantage of, are called gay or just fed up. good guys get hurt, bad guys don't.

that's where your Entirely wrong Drew. Can't agree with that at all. :eusa_snoo

A lot of bad guys turned bad simply because they were hurt. Not because they grew up bad. Take that into consideration before you say bad guys don't get hurt.

[Drew]

@ philben - i'm a good guy and have been hurt.

@ greatis - i partially disagree. i've always been a good guy even though i've been hurt. but i'm still a good guy. but this might not be the same for every guy.

[Greatis]

exactly Drew but Bad Guys fall for the female too even if it's the occasional one. And they end up getting hurt too even though they have that exterior shell around them of having many female partners.

A lot of womanisers I know will say this one phrase. " They will never fall in love again".

Do you know what that means Drew they were hurt before and they continue to get hurt but they will never talk cause dem a shotta. So if a bad guy gets hurt you won't know.

[Drew]

i see your point greatis. but i've always been a good guy, so i don't know too much about the bad guy side of it.

[Greatis]

i see your point greatis. but i've always been a good guy, so i don't know too much about the bad guy side of it.

Hey mind what you implying with that statement. :eusa_snoo You don't have to be a Bad Guy to know.

[philben]

That's true greatis. but wouldn't you say it is a matter of choice? I see drew has chosen not to be bad.
Also - a bad guy makes poor choices too.

[Drew]

i know what it feels like to be hurt. and to turn around and hurt someone else knowing how it feels. you will be worse than a bad guy in my books.

[philben]

but drew, that what bad guys usually do. (and girls)

[Drew]

well i guess i'm not as smart as alot of people tell me. i just think thats wrong.

[philben]

it is wrong, we are just explaing it, not excusing it

[Gillion]

good guys bad guys... poppy cock if you ask me...

personally good guys are IDIOTS !!

I'll explain it another time... preparing for the big storm :(

read this in the mean time

http://www.sosuave.com/niceguys/women1.htm

[Cocoa]

Good guys are not idiots!!!!! You rude...just answer the question or none at all Gillion.

[Greatis]

You have more than one storm coming your way Gillion. I will reserve my comments for now. I must say though those articles make very interesting reading. They are so true too.

[prodmaster]

Well this topic is getting interesting and I felt the need to input something. I dont know where Gillion get this nice guy being IDIOTS thought from,probably there is a story behind that but anyway I consider myself to be a nice guy.

Different people experiences different stuff in life. I have met women who likes me for being a nice guy,while some found it to be a turn off cause dem like the bad bwoy thing.Also I have met those who says "if mi pocket no fat dont look inna dem corner.

:rolleyes:

[Gillion]

Firstly, let me restate the the point so that it is absolutely clear...


MOST NICE GUYS ARE IDIOTS

The first thing that I notice with these nice guys is that they really do not know what they want. Especially when it comes to women.

The second thing, carpedium [sp], they always seem to fail at seizing the moment. They tend to be-labour long and hard about whether they should make a move or not for X girl.

The third thing is they always lack self confidence, have a bad self image.

The fourth thing is they seem to exhibit a rather low testosterone levels. In other words, they are wimps.

Fifth.... they always have this PATHETIC BODY language about them.

The old addage that nice girls love bad boys, is just a overly simplistic proverb that attempts to explain a rather basic phenomena. What is it that the bad boys possess that "nice guys" don't.

Answer: Confidence, Attitude, a proper outlook on life.

See my signiature: Attitude is everything.

Now I am not talking about brusk, false, macho bullpie confidence and attitude. I am talking about real confidence and proper attitude (out look on life).

The kind of confidence a man gets for living his OWN life and not being needy. Too many of the nice guys I counsel are in this needy mode that gets them into trouble with women. They have a certain psychological GIRLEYMAN thing about them. This I find is offensive to the brotherhood of X-Y.

What do I mean by girleyman ?

Jim meets a girl. Jim likes the girl. Jim is a coward and doesn't tell the girl he likes her and wants MORE from her in terms of progressing towards an intimate realtionship. Jim decides to "get" this girl in a round about fashion and he MAKE FRIENDS with the girl first, with the INTENT to move up the "ladder". For men that do not understand women this is a bad bad move. And MOST NICE GUYS DO NOT UNDERSTAND THEMSELVES LET ALONE WOMEN

So the problem, that JIM doesn't understand the AVERGAGE woman, makes his life hard where they are concerned. The fact of life is that the average woman will not move a friend up the ladder because she would have told Jim things that she would NEVER tell her man. Jim has been DEMASCULINIZED and turned into a PILLOW.

Here is the kicker... JIM thinks that because he knows more about her than BOB he, JIM, is a better man for it.

So JIM has to listen to JANE cry on the phone or on his shoulders about BOB who slapped her across the face last night and who has been sleeping with her sister. Then JIM gets the "compliment".....

Jim you are so sweet you would make such a wonderful husband for any woman out there. In fact if any woman didn't grab you up I'd say she was an idiot.

poor JIM.

Jim is there wrything in agony over the fact that BOB has "this wonderful girl and is treating her like dirt" and then to add insult to injury, she forms the *** and gives him "the compliment" ?

Now what JIM needs to do is MAN THE HELL UP. Stop killing yourself slowly by listening to Jane bawl about BOB's abuse. Simply state what you want. If it don't work... tell her you do not want to hear anything about her relationship with BOB because it causes you pain. If that fails STOP BEING HER FRIEND. Because YOU KNOW IT HURTS.

Nice guys seem to inflict the most rediculous levels of emotional pain on themselves all in order to be "understanding" and "sweet" and "sensitive". You know who you are. I am talking about the guys that leave their house in the rain from Linstead to UTECH to pick up JANE, who is LATE for a date with BOB.

BULLPIES !!!

The GENUINE NICE GUY, would say to JANE from day one.... I WANT TO SEE IF A REALTIONSHIP WILL WORK WITH US.

If she says no, and YOU want to be a GENUINE friend, then fine. Otherwise, forget that chick and move on.

--gillion
More to come

[Gillion]

When GOD made Woman, he made her as a help-meet. A companion. Because he saw that it was not good for MAN to be alone.

Most of the nice guys I know are not looking for a life companion, they are looking for a mother. A tertiary adjunct. A powersource. Somebody to make them feel good about themselves and their life.

All of the "bad boys" I know, do not need women. They only want them.

Read the above scentence carefully to understand the next paragraph.

A Woman, a normal, psychologically healthy woman. Wants a MAN to share a life with. Not a boy to wipe his nose. She desires an equality.

Women are instinctively attracted to men that DO NOT SEEM TO NEED THEM. It is genetics. It means that the dude is a man in his own right and can STAND ON HIS OWN.


Most of my niceguy bredrins, are into this "clingy, needy, crybaby, comefix my life for me" mode. This repels my female friends that I try to set them up with.

Whereas my DAWGHEART friends have their own complete lives. What they lack is sombody to sare it with. And that is not an imperative for them. These are the guys that my female friends constantly ask me about.

These badboys usually ask these good girls...


WHAT ARE YOU BRINGING TO MY LIFE TO ENHANCE IT ?

Do you see what I am saying ?

Nice guys finish last because they HAVEN'T STARTED TO RUN THE RACE !!!

--old man with too much time on his hands
Gillion

[Chris]

Gillion, first up. "Nice" is very subjective, so what you may consider to be a "nice" guy may be considered as a jerk or joker by others, and vice versa ;). This simply means that you can't call a person nice and in the same breath call them an idiot. This is a contradiction. So, it's better that we say "some guys act idiotic" rather than "nice guys are idiots" :)

Oh btw - I also consider myself a nice guy and I sure don't finish last ;)

Peace.

[Gillion]

Gillion, first up. "Nice" is very subjective, so what you may consider to be a "nice" guy may be considered as a jerk or joker by others, and vice versa ;). This simply means that you can't call a person nice and in the same breath call them an idiot. This is a contradiction. So, it's better that we say "some guys act idiotic" rather than "nice guys are idiots" :)

Oh btw - I also consider myself a nice guy and I sure don't finish last ;)

Peace.

lol.... I knew somebody was going to pick that up. off all people chris you should know I am very skil full with words and do things deliberately to illicit a respons... but from you :D

The reason I used the contradiction is because it is what is in the mind of many guys and some girls reading this. Especialy guys with thought like this. "I am a nice guy so why don't she like me ?"

The truth is a lot of the "nice guys " are really just jerks in hiding.... they are too cowardly to come out fighting for what they want. In psychology we call it being passive agressive.

I am not a nice guy.... I am an honest MAN.... there is a difference.

And you didn't finish last because you were being honest with yourself.

When a person knows themselves and understands the reality that is inside them, then they are more than paltry nice guys they are MEN

Thats what I am aiming at.... the difference between MEN and Nice Guys.

[Gillion]

AVERT YOUR EYES ALL WHO ARE SQUEAMISH !!!

http://www.heartless-*****es.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

[philben]

Interesting points by Gillion. Has caused me to think of the guys I know, etc. so guys, keep talking - I'm learning here

[Cocoa]

lol.... I knew somebody was going to pick that up. off all people chris you should know I am very skil full with words and do things deliberately to illicit a respons... but from you :D

The reason I used the contradiction is because it is what is in the mind of many guys and some girls reading this. Especialy guys with thought like this. "I am a nice guy so why don't she like me ?"

The truth is a lot of the "nice guys " are really just jerks in hiding.... they are too cowardly to come out fighting for what they want. In psychology we call it being passive agressive.

I am not a nice guy.... I am an honest MAN.... there is a difference.

And you didn't finish last because you were being honest with yourself.

When a person knows themselves and understands the reality that is inside them, then they are more than paltry nice guys they are MEN

Thats what I am aiming at.... the difference between MEN and Nice Guys.
I believe this to be true in some light of the conversation. Good work Gilion.

[Greatis]

My my I see Gillion you have converted some people. :eusa_thin

You know it's funny. I have found myself in similar situations before. Long ago . I have since learned. :eusa_shif

[Brownsugar]

ladies, so what should we do to catch your eyes??


Badin issa good thing.
Job *issa must*
Teeth/nuff to chew and nah mek a scene.
Clean Clothes *issa plus*
Clean Drawers* dais bonus*
No pickneys * issa good thing*
Legal
w.e esle will be counted as a bonus!:icon_mrgr

Dais not much, dais all!

[duster]

Like the woman dem say just be yourself. Let mi share something wid the man dem inna di place. when a woman first see you she know in the back of her mind if she would interested. you dont haffi force the issue. if she ago give you some you dont haffi work hard fi it. just be yourself she will give in if she really dig you. most men dont know that. me know yute dat kill dem slef ova woman buy dem this and that and still no get nothing.nothing even leads up to a intimate relationship. THen otta nowhere a likkle broke yute just come up a be himself and next thing u know the next day or week him kill it. like i said before just be yourself the woman already know if she want you. if she not pushing it dont even waste your time. all of the woman dem mi deal wid a dem push the issue. mi just sit back and watch thing unfold. woman hate the feeling of dem chasing you dem want man fi chase dem but if you want the upper hand follow mi instruction.

[Manu]

Yawn!!!! Duster... you think you all.... you have alot to learn.

[acidblade]

Like the woman dem say just be yourself. Let mi share something wid the man dem inna di place. when a woman first see you she know in the back of her mind if she would interested. you dont haffi force the issue. if she ago give you some you dont haffi work hard fi it. just be yourself she will give in if she really dig you. most men dont know that. me know yute dat kill dem slef ova woman buy dem this and that and still no get nothing.nothing even leads up to a intimate relationship. THen otta nowhere a likkle broke yute just come up a be himself and next thing u know the next day or week him kill it. like i said before just be yourself the woman already know if she want you. if she not pushing it dont even waste your time. all of the woman dem mi deal wid a dem push the issue. mi just sit back and watch thing unfold. woman hate the feeling of dem chasing you dem want man fi chase dem but if you want the upper hand follow mi instruction.
:snoring::snoring::snoring: tell us something that a 5 yr old doesn't know :eusa_hand :snoring:

[Brownsugar]

Badin issa good thing.
Job *issa must*
Teeth/nuff to chew and nah mek a scene.
Clean Clothes *issa plus*
Clean Drawers* dais bonus*
No pickneys * issa good thing*
Legal
w.e esle will be counted as a bonus!:icon_mrgr

Dais not much, dais all!

:eusa_clap :eusa_clap like i said!

[duster]

:snoring::snoring::snoring: tell us something that a 5 yr old doesn't know :eusa_hand :snoring:

It wasn't you who started the thread so therefore that prove that someone out there is ignorant of the things i stated before. so even if a one person it help i've accomplished my job. If you don't need the advice great for you! we are hear to help each other the man ask a question so i tried to answer it. If you dont like my response u know what fi do!

[Gwadinka]

You just have to know what you want from the start, confidence is a must and a little something like charisma or anything else that would prevent me from thinking of you as just another possible friend or just some guy that I met once I don't know where.

[apple]

I definately agree with Cocoa be yourselves and dress like descent individualds. I know i definately like it when a guy is looking neat and at the top of his game and stop with the corny lines be real

[tiffany]

Ironically, the guys who are quiet yet self confident are the ones who catch my eyes... and also..

Badin issa good thing.
Job *issa must*
Teeth/nuff to chew and nah mek a scene.
Clean Clothes *issa plus*
Clean Drawers* dais bonus*
No pickneys * issa good thing*
Legal
w.e esle will be counted as a bonus!
Dais not much, dais all!


lol.......

[Twinkie]

1. Money
2. Stable Job
3. House
4. Reliable if not POSH car
5. Generous HEART






























67. Nice Teeth
68. Cute
69. 69

:haha::haha: :dwl:

[jamerican]

69. 69

:haha::haha: :dwl:

to rahtid i not going to even ask i need to go church my poor head

[Manu]

Lawd Twinks....behave nuh?!

[bernie]

Lawd Twinks....behave nuh?!

Like she was ever able to do that :rolleyes: :icon_mrgr