Why do women ignore mens feelings?

[Greatis]

Why do women ignore mens feelings? Maybe you females can answer that.

I have realised that almost every female that i have encountered believes that the male should be some GOD. He does not have emotions and if he shouts he is a monster becuase his temper should not rise.

If they are in a debate about something they want to share the man usually gets the least if nothing out of it. The first thing she starts saying is he is inconsiderate etc.

Why do you women treat your men so shabby emotionally?

[philben]

Maybe it is how men have protrayed themselves - as invincible, men don't cry, etc.

[Drew]

oh man i really want to know the answer to this........

[Drew]

so philben, you saying because of the way we act, it seems we have no emotions?? :icon_neut

[philben]

hush drew, it may be something you need to discuss, so lie on the couch and pour out your heart :eusa_wall

[philben]

yeah, sometimes it's like that. we never know what you're thinkink except when there is an outburst - then it is not tempered - it comes out like a volcano!

Feelings are impt. to a woman, yet a woman should know that a man may not always talk about his feelings, but if she knows him well, she'll know that there are feelings for him to talk about

[philben]

but if i did that then I'd not really love him, then it wouldn't matter what he thinks.

[Greatis]

hmmm we need more responses from other females.

But Guys I make a post and withing the space of 8 minutes there are 6 replies. Unoo good. :eusa_clap

[Drew]

cool nuh greatis. you have to take notes, u zi mi. ;)

[Pondadat]

Do you guys want a women to answer or you want to take turns an answer yourself. Hmmm ;)

[Drew]

i want the ladies to answer.

[Cocoa]

Why do you women treat your men so shabby emotionally?Yeah women, why? Cause I know I don't.

[Zoley!]

Why do women ignore mens feelings? Do they? In answer to this question I would say that you are putting all women in one category and that would make all of us the same and not individualized human beings that we are. I can only answer for myself and not for all women about ignoring a mans feelings.

I would have to believe that inquiry comes from a personal outlook of an experience from a bad relationship. And in looking at things that way you a generalizing women and not giving us our props. Hey were a complex species, you better recognize. So with that you get back to me about how you want to understand the woman and who she is! cool. Perplexed?

[Greatis]

Zoley Let's reply to your post.

Ok I am not generalizing if you read my post clearly I have used the word most although the question is general. I am also referring to the women that I have dealt with and of course other men may have the same question.

Next thing why do I have to get back to you on how to understand the woman? When is it that it will be about understanding the man? When will women take the time and effort (we man do) in getting to know us? It's a general statement yes but it is something that I have seen that a majority of women don't do. I am not saying it's all. It appears it has nothing to do with each woman being unique rather it has to do with social upbringingi. But alas I will not ans my own thread.

PS. I understand women very well Zoley and when I do meet that person I do spend time and effort to understand that one. But know this women are not very different you, Unique in their likes and dislikes yes but ...... alas this is for another thread.
;)

[InkyP1]

My question to you Zoley is.. Did Pebbles beat up Bam Bam? (lol) :icon_mrgr
Spirited little thing eh. More for ya lata. :)

[InkyP1]

How does that Song go its by the Black Eye Peas. "Lets get it started in here?" Im going to look up the lyrics. (lol)

[Gillion]

Women who ignore mens feelings do so because they are selfish.
Why they do it ?

Most of these same women think men are idiots. Little boys. Children to be shooed. And I must say that WE MEN have given them, time and time again, proof that this is so.

It is our fault in many instances.

http://www.intellectualwhores.com

No one ignores my feelings and lives to tell the tale... I tend to be that ruthless.

[Zoley!]

My question to you Zoley is.. Did Pebbles beat up Bam Bam? (lol) :icon_mrgr
Spirited little thing eh. More for ya lata. :)

Mi nuh ansa ppl dat luk fi chuble :icon_mrgr so check dat!

[Zoley!]

Zoley Let's reply to your post.

Ok I am not generalizing if you read my post clearly I have used the word most although the question is general. I am also referring to the women that I have dealt with and of course other men may have the same question.

Next thing why do I have to get back to you on how to understand the woman? When is it that it will be about understanding the man? When will women take the time and effort (we man do) in getting to know us? It's a general statement yes but it is something that I have seen that a majority of women don't do. I am not saying it's all. It appears it has nothing to do with each woman being unique rather it has to do with social upbringingi. But alas I will not ans my own thread.

PS. I understand women very well Zoley and when I do meet that person I do spend time and effort to understand that one. But know this women are not very different you, Unique in their likes and dislikes yes but ...... alas this is for another thread.
;)

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hope u unda stand mi broken patois

www.Morpheus.com - title Maxwell- This Womans Work

[AngelsKiss]

I think this whole topic should not be about women but people in general. It work both ways, there are men who ignore women's feelings.

Secondly, I think we should look at it on an individual basis. Yes there may be some common traits in individuals that behave this way and those should be examined. However, its also important to examine it on an individual basis. Maybe then we can come up with some answers.

[Greatis]

Take the lead Angel while I wait on Zoley's response. Zoley I only making conversation too. Just contributing myself no pun intended.

[Zoley!]

Take the lead Angel while I wait on Zoley's response. Zoley I only making conversation too. Just contributing myself no pun intended.

Wat do ya. :) Stop call mi name man. :icon_mrgr mi ave wuk to do. Hey mi tink ya bread need sum butter. so miya ope ya get dat properly. zeen :icon_mrgr no pun intended (lol). Tonight miya see unu

[AngelsKiss]

Ok here goes...

The first thing to look at is why ppl enter into relationships.

Some do for the sake of companionship..love, family, etc. Then there are those who do for purely selfish reason, money, status, sex, etc. If its for selfish reasons then of course you will have the inconsiderate person with no thought for anyone but themselves.

If someone is in a relationship for the right reasons and is not very thougthful of the other person's feelings then I say it usually has to do with their experiences, whether as kids or as adults and as you know those experiences varies.

Bare in mind that its also for the person who is suffering from the lack of understanding, right to stand up for him/herself. Its also about communication between both parties. If communication isn't working, get some outside help (counseling) and if that don't work then you may just have to go your seperate ways. Oh and don't leave out the prayers.

Of course it all sounds simple but it is not.

[Zoley!]

Greatis

Ok I am not generalizing if you read my post clearly I have used the word most although the question is general. I am also referring to the women that I have dealt with and of course other men may have the same question.


Your question was "Why do women ignore mens feelings?" The answer is not an easy one because dealing with just having this question. We could analyze it forever and still not draw out what the basis of this question means to you. And to resolve an issue that you have about the emotions of women it would be better if we had something to work with, rather than play a guessing game. This can not be concluded so easily and may take a continuous effort to satisfy you and your peers knowledge and understanding of the female psyche. Life is not perfect and there are not perfect answers, but in discussing the issue it may give you a better insight into "How the game is played". :) So give us a case scenario that involves a woman ignoring your feelings. or hypothetical situation. :) And we can go from there. Peace

[InkyP1]

I like what you had to say Angelkiss and its a good answer. The scenario thing is also good answer Zoley. You can make it a series like a drama. Hey and another thing nobody understands these quotes. they dont know Zoley Language. I did explain in the good moring thread. but you have to write that beside your little sayings. Cause you have people thinking some innuendo. Ok. lov ya. Im out no more time.

[InkyP1]

Hey wh appen to the Greatis you cant run now! that how u tan? :)

[Greatis]

not running InkyP after all I am a big man.

But still I hmmm an hypothesis huh. Well I guess a male has problems at work. he comes home he is emotional drained proceeds to talk to his spouse. Only to be broken by her lamentations about something and she not hearing him out. I guess that could serve as one.

[Pondadat]

This is a communication issue. Thats all that is. and men dont want to hear whining. They want to be heard, but they dont like to listen. So you have to work that out. In the listening and answering part. Hey its not easy. I dont like to listen either sometimes and you have to in a relationship. So thats both man and woman do that. Its not just a women thing.

[Drew]

pondadat, finally someone hit the nail on the head. i stopped posting in this thread a long time ago.

i couldn't agree more. communication is key to a relationship and men and women both suffer from this malfunction. men wants to dominate and women want to be heard, so what happens is this constant ingnoring about each others feelings and they try to get their point across.

communication is listening, understanding and replying. this is what i do, sometimes my partners hate it, but we both get to communicate. i don't say a word, just look at her and let her say what she has to say, and i listen. then i ask her if she's finish. then i make my points, if she tries to interupt me i say to her that its my turn, i made her talk and i listen. and we do this back and forth until there is agreement. this really works for me. i do this with everyone in which i debate with.

its just like this thread, if you don't read each others post, you're going to chat crap. i don't think women ignore men's feelings, and i don't think men ignore women's feelings. i just think that we each forget that we all have feelings every once in awhile, and try to make our point.

guys don't like to show emotions, because they believe its weak. thats crap. but once you show your lady that you have feelings, trust me she'll take care of it. women are way more caring than men, so if she sees emotions she'll treat you properly. of course, there is always a selected few who are going to do otherwise.

[Greatis]

Ok so we are getting somewhere. hmmm well communication is key and you will hear females saying it all the time but do they practice it?

[AngelsKiss]

The truth is that there are some traits inherent to both of the sexes, communication is one example. Women communicate...ie...we like to talk things out. It's not necessarily whining either it's how we are. Men on the other hand are not communicators, they tend to keep things inside. It doesn't make either parties bad ppl, its just there make up. What we each have to try to do is understand this and make the necessary adjustment.

Of course there are always exception to each rule.

[TRUBBLE]

Well personally i value my man's feelings...the women that don't probably weren't in love with them to beging with.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

The truth is that there are some traits inherent to both of the sexes, communication is one example. Women communicate...ie...we like to talk things out. It's not necessarily whining either it's how we are. Men on the other hand are not communicators, they tend to keep things inside. It doesn't make either parties bad ppl, its just there make up. What we each have to try to do is understand this and make the necessary adjustment.

Of course there are always exception to each rule.

I kindof disagree with you when you say that men are not communicators. Men communicate quite effectively. They just communicate differently than women. Sometimes women view men as not being communicative because they don't say the things the women want to hear when they want to hear it. Men will talk about whatever they want to when they feel it is necessary.

[AngelsKiss]

I kindof disagree with you when you say that men are not communicators. Men communicate quite effectively. They just communicate differently than women. Sometimes women view men as not being communicative because they don't say the things the women want to hear when they want to hear it. Men will talk about whatever they want to when they feel it is necessary.

Do you also notice the statement about exceptions to the rule? Also its not necessarily about wanting to hear what we want to hear. Yes we do see things diff because of our make up, but its also known that men are generally not communicators. Saying that men with talk about what ever when they feel is necessary also goes right in hand with what I had to say. Communicating shouldnt be about when one person feel it is necessary. A relationship is a partnership, not a 1 sided affair, where 1 party does what ever he feels like when he thinks its neccessary.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Do you also notice the statement about exceptions to the rule? Also its not necessarily about wanting to hear what we want to hear. Yes we do see things diff because of our make up, but its also known that men are generally not communicators. Saying that men with talk about what ever when they feel is necessary also goes right in hand with what I had to say. Communicating shouldnt be about when one person feel it is necessary. A relationship is a partnership, not a 1 sided affair, where 1 party does what ever he feels like when he thinks its neccessary.

:cool:

Women think men aren't good communicators because men don't always communicate about what the women want them to. Everyone has the right to talk about what they want to talk about. Should someone be forced to talk about something they don't want to talk about? Is that fair? If one is considerate about ones partners feelings, one would respect that there are times when, and things about which they may not wish to talk about. This is one of the things which leads some men to think that women ignore their feelings. They acuse men of not communicating because they don't communicate in the way the women want, and try to pressure them into conforming.

[AngelsKiss]

Its not about being forced, its about being considerate of each others feelings. If my man wanted to talk about something that was important to him, even if I didnt want to discuss it I would make the effort. The mere fact that it is important to him is enough for me. Its about sharing, compromising and most importantly love!

[acidblade]

Why do women ignore mens feelings? Maybe you females can answer that.

I have realised that almost every female that i have encountered believes that the male should be some GOD. He does not have emotions and if he shouts he is a monster becuase his temper should not rise.

If they are in a debate about something they want to share the man usually gets the least if nothing out of it. The first thing she starts saying is he is inconsiderate etc.

Why do you women treat your men so shabby emotionally?
a weh yuh a find fi yuh woman dem :eusa_thin

[hotangel]

i really don't think women ignore men's feelings, but most just tend to hide their feelings ,on the other hand many men tend to ignore womens and guess that's some women treat them accordingly.

[Jae]

It's very easy when some men act like they don't have any.

[acidblade]

cause dem selfish and think say a dem alone have feelings, hence the reason some of us treat dem so nice :)

[pogi_2nr]

If you find your girl doesn't take your feelings into consideration as a man then
its time to rotate them.. move the front tires to the back so matey can get her
15 minutes in the spotlight.

I havent had the same experience as greatis though, most girls I meet would
bend backways if they thought I wasn't happy.

[acidblade]

If you find your girl doesn't take your feelings into consideration as a man then
its time to rotate them.. move the front tires to the back so matey can get her
15 minutes in the spotlight.


Aye Caramba. :rolleyes: when will these young men have some respect for the ladies

[cherrylips86]

I do admit that we often times ignore your"men" feelings but i think the blame should be placed on our society. I encourage guys to express themselves as i strongly agree that there would be less violence if they did. Men store up too much anger, hurt,guilt, disappointments and as a rsult hurt both themselves and others sometimes intentionallly or otherwise

[Twinkie]

If you are in a relationship and even after the akward-beginning-getting-to-know-you stage, you pick up on her selfishness and you still pursue the relationship, you're stupid.

There are always signs of these things. Is you alone call. If she have plans she not gone cut them off for you etc. And you still want to talk to her after that, you only setting up yourself.

If he's that sensitive about it, do like Pogi says, rotate dem blasted tyres.

[RachieBabie]

men dnt have feelings... dem tuff like.... emotions are foreign to men.... well the str8 ones

suh me seh

[BlackCryptoKnight]

men dnt have feelings... dem tuff like.... emotions are foreign to men.... well the str8 ones

suh me seh

That kind of thinking is sure to get you a happy long term relationship.

[RachieBabie]

That kind of thinking is sure to get you a happy long term relationship.
lol...
apparently so
i believe its been wrkin quite well so far.... ive got myself a gr8 super long term relationship with maself

[Manu]

men dnt have feelings... dem tuff like.... emotions are foreign to men.... well the str8 ones

suh me seh

You know me... and deal wid me... and really a seh that babes? :eusa_naug

[bernie]

You know me... and deal wid me... and really a seh that babes? :eusa_naug

See the impressions the girl has of you? and i'm sure you tried.:confused:

:eusa_shif

[BlackCryptoKnight]

lol...
apparently so
i believe its been wrkin quite well so far.... ive got myself a gr8 super long term relationship with maself
How's that working out for ya?

[Lisa20]

Why do women ignore mens feelings? Maybe you females can answer that.

I have realised that almost every female that i have encountered believes that the male should be some GOD. He does not have emotions and if he shouts he is a monster becuase his temper should not rise.

If they are in a debate about something they want to share the man usually gets the least if nothing out of it. The first thing she starts saying is he is inconsiderate etc.

Why do you women treat your men so shabby emotionally?

Mr. Greatis... u said almost every FEMALE u have encountered with believes the the MALE should be some GOD......those are stupid women......A man is not a GOD nor will he ever be a GOD in my life....a MAN yes but no GOD.

ON your topic......Is not a matter of treating men bad... When we as women try to be emotionally considerate you guys call it stifling, pestering and clingy. So why do you complain now? I remember a time when i was called all them words by a certain someone.....mi nah call no name......So now i don't do debates, if he raises his voice i don't even mind.

I learnt from the Best.....MR. GREATIS

[Gillion]

Where is this thread smoke comming from... I wonder

[Nika_869]

All I can say is WOW

[Manu]

Wow indeed..... a dat a gwaan?! :D

[Lisa20]

Zoley Let's reply to your post. Ok I am not generalizing if you read my post clearly I have used the word most although the question is general. I am also referring to the women that I have dealt with and of course other men may have the same question.

Next thing why do I have to get back to you on how to understand the woman? When is it that it will be about understanding the man? When will women take the time and effort (we man do) in getting to know us? It's a general statement yes but it is something that I have seen that a majority of women don't do. I am not saying it's all. It appears it has nothing to do with each woman being unique rather it has to do with social up bringing. But alas I will not ans my own thread.
PS. I understand women very well :eusa_liar Zoley and when I do meet that person I do spend time and effort to understand that one.:eusa_liar But know this women are not very different you, Unique in their likes and dislikes yes but ...... alas this is for another thread.
;)

Greatis you mention communication in one of your threads and i was shocked. My question is why do men find it hard to communicate with women? Yes you come home from work and you want to talk about your stressing day, did you stop to find out how her day was?? Did you stop to scrutinize your spouse's face to even notice the additional stress lines that have materialize?? No all you want to do is talk about your stressing day, yes She is listening but guess what her day was stressing too and it would be a relief if for once you stopped and listened and not let be all about you!!!!!

[jamerican]

sense a argument exits

[acidblade]

Greatis you mention cummunication in one of your threads and i was shocked. My question is why do men find it hard to communicate with women? Yes you come home from work and you want to talk about your stressing day, did you stop to find out how her day was?? Did you stop to scrutinize your spouse's face to even noice the additional stress lines that have materialize?? No all you want to do is talk about your stressing day, yes She is listening but guess wat her day was stressing too and it would be a relief if for once you stopped and lstened and not let be all about you!!!!!

call the man or send him a mail :)

[Nika_869]

Why do women ignore mens feelings? Maybe you females can answer that.

I have realised that almost every female that i have encountered believes that the male should be some GOD. He does not have emotions and if he shouts he is a monster becuase his temper should not rise.

If they are in a debate about something they want to share the man usually gets the least if nothing out of it. The first thing she starts saying is he is inconsiderate etc.

Why do you women treat your men so shabby emotionally?

"Almost every female you have encountered??" Maybe you need to step back and look at yourself. WE are what we attract ya know. Not meant to get you offended or anything, but I learned that the hard way.


Hey were a complex species, you better recognize.

I sometimes wonder. Are we really that complex? Sometimes beyond all the "twists and turns" we are quite simple. The complexity, IMO is just something to offer a challenge to the man.


Women who ignore mens feelings do so because they are selfish.
Why they do it ?

Most of these same women think men are idiots. Little boys. Children to be shooed. And I must say that WE MEN have given them, time and time again, proof that this is so.

It is our fault in many instances.

http://www.intellectualwhores.com

No one ignores my feelings and lives to tell the tale... I tend to be that ruthless.

Darling........are you okay dear?? I mean. I did fluff your pillow last night. Was it the steamed fish? I did it just the way you liked it. :( :eusa_booh

It is not necessarily because they are selfish, sometimes it is more so because they see no sense in the situation, or simply the man upsets them and they are frustrated.


This is a communication issue. Thats all that is. and men dont want to hear whining. They want to be heard, but they dont like to listen. So you have to work that out. In the listening and answering part. Hey its not easy. I dont like to listen either sometimes and you have to in a relationship. So thats both man and woman do that. Its not just a women thing.

Thank you pondadat. Respect to you. It is all about the way we communicate as well. Buck up men. Experience is the worst teacher.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Why do women ignore mens feelings?
Those who do so are selfish. They care more about their own feelings than the mans.

[Sexysophie]

Maybe the reason you think your feelings are being ignored is just getting a dose of your own medicine.

I agree that communication is key and a man should not always expect a woman to hear him out but when it is her time to speak what she has to say is pushed aside as just being petty or small.

Hear your woman out and maybe she will do the same for you.

[tillybummie]

Making such overgeneralizations does noone any good. The men that I know would not agree with your claiming that you are speaking on behalf of MEN; nor can anyone on this list, including myself, speak to the experiences of most or all WOMEN. "Women" don't ignore "Men's" feelings. The person YOU are with is not paying attention to you in the way that YOU would want her to. That's between you and her. Maybe she does not know how to deal with emotions, neither hers nor yours. Both of you need to work on that. You can start by seeing your partner as an individual and a human being, and not as representative of an entire social group. Its amazing how far that will take you.

[Greatis]

A wha dis yah iyah how it reach yah suh? Jeez mi gaan, fiyah jus ketch inya so FIREBRIGADE 110

[Cocoa]

:rotflm::rotflm::rotflm:

Man waan cook and can't handle the heat in the kitchen. ha.:jestera:

[Brownsugar]

:dwl::rofl::rotflm:@^


I personally think, its not every woman!

[Lisa20]

You know for the first in a long long time i have seen a thread stick to the topic, no arguments and thing. Well i guess i rest my case now seeing as how the object of my argument has left the building lol.

I hope there is another one that is as interesting as this one.

[mystiqueone]

It just the way society is viewed that men shouldn't cry and I just think that a double standard, because they say men are emotional the are either a sissy or gay but I personally think its okay for a man to cry they have feeling too just like any woman.

Crying doesn't make any less masculine to me, I kinda find it sexy that they are so in touch with their feeling, It takes a feeling man to cry and express his feelings and so hard to have all those emotions bottled up inside, one day it ahas to come out and if it comes out all at once especially if they are hurt its not gonna be good, that is one of teh main reason soem men abuse their women they take it out on them because they are afraid to cry

[Manu]

:icon_cry: :icon_cry: :icon_cry: :icon_cry: :icon_cry: :icon_cry:





Beat you to it Recursion

[recursion]

Bad man don't cry

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kw8y3DI_e6g

[mystiqueone]

well I dont want no bad man

[recursion]

They say I'm a bad man but there's tenderness in me.

[Brownsugar]

:haha: Bad man WEY????

[gucci man]

Women always want men to be sensitive and show show affection. But if u give them that, you will be trampled..trust me.

So men, the game is best played when they want what they cant get (or wont allow).

[Brownsugar]

Thats not true not all women! I would love for a guy to express to me how he feels. Well my guy not just a regular dude!

[Greatis]

haha a guy expressing emotions damn nope he's got to be twisted huh.... who knows? I sure don't show mine off..... Am I wrong we need a poll for this

[Lisa20]

oh lord.............we still on this topic???.............Here we go again! lol

[NEFERTITI]

We don't! I think men just need to be more in touch with their feelings and don't be afraid to show it. woman are very complex creatures u have to study them and work from there.