Personality Expectations

[Xenocrates]

Have you ever met someone from the forums? Have you ever spoken to them on the phone? Via MSN? Seen their photo? If so, have you noticed that you are consistently amazed that what you experienced doesn't match up with how you imagined they'd be?

Question: Why do you think this is?

Share your experiences. :icon_mrgr

[acidblade]

i wanna hear from somebody that have spoken/seen xeno :icon_mrgr

[Brownsugar]

i wanna hear from somebody that have spoken/seen xeno :icon_mrgr



LMFCO:hah: Oh my gosh ah was tekin him serious enuh til yuh start with all BS:haha:LMFCO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dat was rel funny thou:icon_mrgr

[Foxy Kay]

Don't pay any attention to AB. Anyway, actually I spoke to AB on the phone a few times and online alot. Well, what can I say..... for one thing, his voice is deep to my astonishment cause he has this baby face, but everything else remaind the same i.e., he is still a goof ball and actually more fun to talk to.

[Xenocrates]

Ok, I've spoken to Liquid Bunny - and she is far more hilarious than I had imagined. She had me rollin', laughing myself to tears - it's not usual that a female can do that to me. She's just incredibly fun. I know I am guaranteed a good time with the bunny. It's wabbit season all year round. The forums don't do her sense of humor any justice at all. Believe it. ;)

[Foxy Kay]

To answer your question: Well, I think it is because we don't know them personally and other members might percieve another member as weird, snotty, or stuck-up based on what that particular member might have posted or the persona they give off when they interact with other members online. Remember, it is a website and ppl tend to be someone they aren't until they get to know and become friends with someone or in this case another CY member... their true personality comes out....

[Xenocrates]

It's a lot more complex than that Foxy, but that was a nice attempt. Pretty close actually :eusa_clap

Anyone else?

[Izemi-Clem]

Hail

It is quite simple isn't it?

Consider the process of moving from PE (potential) to KE (kinetic).
More than what it actually is, it is how it is perceived.

It is quite possible and I do believe it is so, that the perception of how a person INTENDS to be perceived by others is more often not what or how they expect it to be.

Case in point:
I might think that I'm presenting myself to others as being intellectual and confident while the person perceives me as being obnoxious and self absorbed, narcissistic even.

It is easier said than done to have the difference between the two aligned and executed correctly or should I say perfectly?
Which of course depends on whether or not there is an intention to deceive or otherwise present yourself as something or someone you're not.

Regardless of who or what you are, the perception of yourself by someone else is heavily dependent on what they expect based on the image they have already created in their own minds.

So is it a question of who you are or what you are perceived to be?
Which one really matters ?
To yourself at least.

The truth is that it is natural for people to present themselves to others as they would like to be perceived; an extension of who they themselves would like to be.
This forum, in this virtual experience presents a great opportunity for one to do so; which is control of the alter egos, the various IDs which are present in our make up, or otherwise the pursuit of doing so.

You will find Jian Xeno, as I'm sure you are already aware of ; it isn't a matter of the execution but the discipline of the execution which gives us control of self. Which is the real catalyst.

This is refered to as connecting the outer-being with the inner-self or otherwise it is the person who knows who they are which is able to be who they are, whatever the circumstances.

Yes.. I may be rambling but what do you expect?
I've been to Calabash, call me for this moment inspired ;)

Izemi-Clem

[Foxy Kay]

You type this up soo early in di morning.... You good Izemi-Clem :)

Maybe this is the answer Xeno looking for.

[AngelsKiss]

Well, what can I say..... for one thing, his voice is deep to my astonishment cause he has this baby face, but everything else remaind the same i.e., he is still a goof ball and actually more fun to talk to.

This is so true. I have spoken with AB as well and I was very suprised that he has such a beautiful masculine voice. Sure don't match his baby face. Now kiddo, don't let it go to your head :)


Xeno on the other hand looks masculine but sounds like a kid:icon_mrgr

[Brownsugar]

I have yet to be bless with AB's voice!:icon_mrgr
:icon_mrgrHeard Bernie's voice and hes what I made him out to be....pretty gosh damn cool!:icon_redf
:eusa_thin Who else??? Well dais it everyone bein selfish with their voice and personalities:(...!
Wanna hear Nester-San, A-A, Xeno, Pogi and any other JA men with dat full-blown JA accent!!:icon_redf

[Xenocrates]

:icon_arro Izemi

Hey, that's a pretty accurate descriptive. But I'm looking for a specific sequence of words. Has anyone ever heard of a concept called Residual Self Image?

:icon_arro All

Psychologists assert that when we use anonymous electronic communication mediums, only less than 1/8 of our personality is displayed online, since other elements such as body language, tone of voice and eye contact are lost with the communication. Since only that tiny fraction of our person is what others experience, the human brain tends to perform a "lowest common factor" operation based on that perceived character profile, and build the rest of that person's image along with the profile.

Lowest Common Factor

Everyday we meet and interact with all different types of people. In each person we interact with, there is a summation of their character that we automatically perform in our subconscious mind. This summation is what is known as a Personality Temperament. Because we interact with people everyday, even when we only experience a small fraction of that person's temperament, we can automatically assume what the rest of their personality is like. This small fraction is what is known as the lowest common factor. However, this LCF also takes into account such elements as pertains to body language. But since body language is missing from anonymous communication mediums like this one, this leads to an interesting phenomenon known as Residual Self Image.

Residual Self Image

When we go online and we communicate with someone, only the most conscious part of our personality is displayed - which is how we think of ourselves. This part of our psyche is projected a direct result of our brain's processing of other people's communication, stripped of all the other non verbal communication forms that other people also exude along with their communicae. This essentially equates to lightning without thunder. Have you ever seen a large bolt of lightning in the sky, and anticipated a very LOUD rumble of thunder to follow, but only hear a slight distant tumble? This is what happens to our perceptions of each other when we interact online, and meet in person later. Our respective Residual Self Image projections online cloak the other aspects of our personality.

The part of us that is displayed online is the very CORE essence of our personality, but not an accurate representation of it. Since there is no body language to temper these electronically coded outputs, the communication information displayed online looses all of its context and becomes a summation of the best and worst possible characteristics of our person, which 99% of the time, is highly inaccurate and is thus, very easy to misinterpret.

Even the avatars that we select, (or how often we change them) alludes to our deepest, most unprocessed, subconscious identity. It is this subconscious identity that psychologists refer to as your Residual Self Image. It is how your subconscious mind sees yourself stripped of your ego or any higher brain functions. Other people will see this small fraction of your personality (too small to make an accurate temperament profile) and 80% of the time, will incorrectly sort your personality.

[Liquid Bunny]

Well it seems as if everyone talks to AB, so i wont bother to boost his ego any further... moving along :p


Malloc: He isnt as morbid and gloomy as he appears to be. Hes actually very caring, and sweet.

Jae: Is a lot crazier lol... she tuff still

Steven D: He pwns. His personality really doesnt show up here @ all. He is hilarious, very easy to talk to despite his age, and has the heart of a Saint.

XENO!!! real don dada. Can i tell u... Xeno pwns. I thought that.. u know given that he loves to make these long posts... and use these big words.... and press everybodys buttons with this black ghetto ppl = crazy monkey crap, he is oodles and boodles of fun to talk to... about EVERYTHING.. who would of thought that Xeno would kno about *** and ************* and open to stuff like ******** and that he had the same ******** problem like me !!! lol I thought he just thought and spoke in binary... it isnt like that @ all.

He even asks me how Blanki is doing from time to time..lol cant beat that!

To be cont'd

[Izemi-Clem]

Hail


This essentially equates to lightning without thunder.
This is what happens to our perceptions of each other when we interact online, and meet in person later. Our respective Residual Self Image projections online cloak the other aspects of our personality.


:icon_arro Jian Xeno

Work it out for yourself king, I would disagree with your analogy; it would suggest that there is somewhat of a let-down or otherwise disappointment in the expectations garnered from one's created RSI of the other person.
I'm seeing a residual profile of a control element which has lost an important receptor in it's collection mechanism.

Then again its all based on your point on view and what you need from any kind of exchange with another human being.

It is this exchange which is important; because if you consider it carefully it boils down to an aspect of control.

Please stay with I on this.

Psychology is a discipline which when studied carefully has two schools of benefits; control of self and control of environment.

The more we study the mind, our instincts and impulses, the more we learn about ourselves. We are then better able to manipulate, adjust and improve ourselves, giving us control.
This know-legde allows us to overstand our peers, it gives us control of the exchange between ourselves and said peers.

Are you following this young Xeno SkyWalker??

What is the most important thing to you during this exchange?
Is it control of the exchange?
Is it the predictable environment which is sought after?
Or is it the quality of information gathered during the exchange.

You see I once sought such control, I paid every attention to the details which I could use to analyze a person's profile so that I could overstand exactly who I was dealing with and there would be no surprises.
Such information and control is important of course, but it doesn't apply in every circumstance.

I found that this detracts from the exchange, as it centred around a manipulative aspect which prevents myself from learning much more than I could have.

What I've learned disagrees with the value of the tangible aspects of human to human communication that yourself and suggested psychologist have placed on them.
Whereas you might not have the usual indicators such as body language and tone of voice etc. there is more value to be placed on the intuitive nature of our perception; by reading writing styles, use of language and articulation and implied intent through use of language, there is enough information for us to use to discern the other person's profile.

More importantly (speaking for I-self) in this medium what is more important to I than anything else is what I am able to learn from someone rather who that person is.

Izemi-Clem

[Izemi-Clem]

Hail

So that I won't carry this thread away from what it might have been intended for, let I just say that there are only two persons (to the best of my know-ledge) in this forum that I do know.

Both of whom I have known before they have joined CY.

It has been interesting reading their post as I've have seens aspects of their personalities, expected and unexpected which I believe has added to our relationships and in some cases given I insight as to who they are, how they think and how they see themselves.

I've never really been interested in going out of the way to meet anyone on CY, but I have imagined what it could be like to be in a controlled environment with several of di I dem, discusssing specific topics.

Trust mi.. wha di I dem haffi seh an how unno been saying it, is already a Blessing and I give thanks fi dat.

It truly is :eusa_clap

Izemi-Clem

[Bahama Mama]

Oh you guys are real :eusa_eh: :eusa_shif ?

[AngelsKiss]

Oh you guys are real :eusa_eh: :eusa_shif ?
Nope..we are all computer generated people:icon_mrgr

[acidblade]

Well it seems as if everyone talks to AB, so i wont bother to boost his ego any further... moving along :p


Malloc: He isnt as morbid and gloomy as he appears to be. Hes actually very caring, and sweet.

Jae: Is a lot crazier lol... she tuff still

Steven D: He pwns. His personality really doesnt show up here @ all. He is hilarious, very easy to talk to despite his age, and has the heart of a Saint.

XENO!!! real don dada. Can i tell u... Xeno pwns. I thought that.. u know given that he loves to make these long posts... and use these big words.... and press everybodys buttons with this black ghetto ppl = crazy monkey crap, he is oodles and boodles of fun to talk to... about EVERYTHING.. who would of thought that Xeno would kno about *** and ************* and open to stuff like ******** and that he had the same ******** problem like me !!! lol I thought he just thought and spoke in binary... it isnt like that @ all.

He even asks me how Blanki is doing from time to time..lol cant beat that!

To be cont'd
:snoring: :snoring: xeno rubbin off on you i see :snoring:

[nuhsenutten]

Oh you guys are real :eusa_eh: :eusa_shif ?

:dwl: :rofl:

[Bahama Mama]

Well I havent met anyone on CY in person. Thats kind of difficult, since my parole ended months ago. These people can be so uptight :eusa_shif

[acidblade]

Well I havent met anyone on CY in person. Thats kind of difficult, since my parole ended months ago. These people can be so uptight :eusa_shif
MSN, on the tele :eusa_shhh

[Bahama Mama]

I have spoken to a few members here via MSN. Lets just say some of them are alot more interesting and entertaining off the air.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Those who I've interacted with outside of CY are pretty kewl.

[Twinkie]

I chatted to LB in the CY link up in MSN...hilarious, down to earth and laid back.

Flirt...also in the chat, rude, outta arder, str8 forward, outspoken. And really is a flirt.

Chicokid...non babylon and that says alot!

Temptress...dat's ma frenny, she not goofy, EXACTLY how she is in here is how she is outside a de yard

AB...he aiight, I guess

[Twinkie]

Have a few I do wanna catch up to outside of here:

1.
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3.
4.
5.

Fill in your names here and submit to PM.

[Twinkie]

Know wha BCK me really want meet more than anybody...I promise. He's like an enigma to me, a Christian with strong beliefs who listens to Leftside & Esco and Chamillionaire...:icon_eek:

Aye Caramba :rolleyes:

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Know wha BCK me really want meet more than anybody...I promise. He's like an enigma to me, a Christian with strong beliefs who listens to Leftside & Esco and Chamillionaire...:icon_eek:

Aye Caramba :rolleyes:


lol ...

you aren't considering the power of Google.

[Twinkie]

no

No

No googling nah mek you jus find Chamillionaire's pic and current song fe dun some bwoy inna de signgenerator wars.

Try again

[Chicokid]

I have spoken to some interesting persons outside of CY mainly via MSN.

Spoke to Chris on the phone once....IMO he doesn't sound Jamaican :eusa_wall

I may be wrong :eusa_wall

[BlackCryptoKnight]

I may be wrong :eusa_wall
lol

Yeah. You wrong. :icon_mrgr

[Manu]

Well...Xeno cool to chat to on MSN....

AB is the same here...


LB is a crackhead...lol


AK...um......yah....AK is well...AK :icon_redf


I haven't really met much people in person....seen em...and thing...but I haven't really talked up to them...except MSN.

Drew cool.....


BCK goes to my church. He knows me....or has seen me...but I don't know him. I used to sing on the choir.


I think my biggest surprise was Xeno...I thought he was a fat white dude....lol!

[ramesh]

Spoke to Chris on the phone once....IMO he doesn't sound Jamaican :eusa_wall

I may be wrong :eusa_wall LOL, you're so very wrong!. :)

[flirt]

I chatted to
Flirt...also in the chat, rude, outta arder, str8 forward, outspoken. And really is a flirt.




:eusa_shhh


:eusa_whis :eusa_whis

[pogi_2nr]

I have met up with a few of these people from the CY before.. I never really set
any expectations so there was no surprise there... all except for bunny.

I expected her to look like her picture but she a fraud.

[Waseemah]

Only chat with my good ole Nester on MSN and he pleasantly surprised me .....he is great, can't imagine him being any other way.....he is great in CY and even great and more real when we one and one.....

[flirt]

Only chat with my good ole Nester on MSN and he pleasantly surprised me .....he is great, can't imagine him being any other way.....he is great in CY and even great and more real when we one and one.....


Only chat!!! He ent rod u yet:eusa_booh

[Waseemah]

NO FLIRT BUT APPARENTLY THAT IS WHY YOU ARE HERE TO DO "ROD PEOPLE" :eusa_naug

[screw]

Where r u taking this ladies?

[screw]

I would really like to hook up an chat with some of you guys and girls on msn or yahoo link.

[Chicokid]

I would really like to hook up an chat with some of you guys and girls on msn or yahoo link.

Friendly PMs also work ;)

[Liquid Bunny]

I have met up with a few of these people from the CY before.. I never really set
any expectations so there was no surprise there... all except for bunny.

I expected her to look like her picture but she a fraud.


U come back wid dis again?! Wah dat suppose to mean Kitty?

[pogi_2nr]

dont worry babes, my offer still stands ;)

[Liquid Bunny]

dont worry babes, my offer still stands ;)
i think u need to PM me... lol


lunch time? :hungry: y wait grab a snicker

[acidblade]

i think u need to PM me... lol


lunch time? :hungry: y wait grab a snicker
Aye Caramba. bring yuh nair, Pogi...bunnys full a fur

[Twinkie]

Sacre Bleu

What is going on in here

[Liquid Bunny]

Aye Caramba. bring yuh nair, Pogi...bunnys full a fur
dwl... haha:dwl: :dwl: u just couldnt resist... u suh nuff how u get into dis? lol and what would u know about ma fur... dream on

http://www.freewebs.com/cawdorkennels/mac%20drool.jpg

[Twinkie]

If me eva EVA post pan CY what the conversation + PLUS dat deh deh pictcha den put in my mind yuh see. Me get deleted and Bann faster than EMUX to rhaatid!!!

[Liquid Bunny]

If me eva EVA post pan CY what the conversation + PLUS dat deh deh pictcha den put in my mind yuh see. Me get deleted and Bann faster than EMUX to rhaatid!!!
:) Glad u got it Twinkz

[acidblade]

dwl... haha:dwl: :dwl: u just couldnt resist... u suh nuff how u get into dis? lol and what would u know about ma fur... dream on

:eusa_whis :eusa_whis :eusa_whis :eusa_whis

[Liquid Bunny]

:eusa_whis :eusa_whis :eusa_whis :eusa_whis



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[lillian]

I really don't know much people on cy just a few, twinkie is pretty much the same like i remember from school days i had no expectations.

Xeno i have met and he's a very nice guy, i wasn't suprised when i met him. Most of you will probably think he's harsh just by the way he writes.:)


Acid is just trouble as we all know him to b.:icon_frow

[Brownsugar]

Friendly PMs also work ;)
Wah di arse Chico yuh know Screw is ah fellah rite why all dem winkin?:icon_eek:

[Brownsugar]

Spoke to Chris on the phone once....IMO he doesn't sound Jamaican :eusa_wall

I may be wrong :eusa_wall

Chris yuh should call me asap! PPl dem wah know!:icon_mrgr

[acidblade]

Acid is just trouble as we all know him to b.:icon_frow

:icon_eek: me? sweet me? kind me? love to make the ladies laugh me? :icon_frow

[Brownsugar]

:icon_eek: me? sweet me? kind me? love to make the ladies laugh me? :icon_frow

:eusa_wall I never laff yet!:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

[acidblade]

:eusa_wall I never laff yet!:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

you know why already...too busy changing :eusa_sile

[Manu]

Oh yeah.... well um....Ms Bahama Mama blew me away. She is quite an interesting character and very very very intelligent.

[Bahama Mama]

Well Manu is uh tall, and surprisingly a little on the shy side in person.

[bernie]

Manu shy?? yute a play fool fi ketch wise nuh?? LOL

[Manu]

Well Manu is uh tall, and surprisingly a little on the shy side in person.

That's it? :(

[acidblade]

That's it? :(

fat and ugly? :rofl: :dwl: :rotflm:

[Manu]

My mommy and my baby think I'm a handsome boy so blah.... (blows rasberry and skips off singing "I'm too sexy" ) :)

[acidblade]

My mommy and my baby think I'm a handsome boy so blah.... (blows rasberry and skips off singing "I'm too sexy" ) :)

LOL yuh mom and ur girl? :dwl: :rofl: :rotflm: now really think about that for a sec. :haha: :icon_lol:

[jamerican]

lol woo mi belly hahaha

[Manu]

They're only two that matters....... :p

[acidblade]

They're only two that matters....... :p
if i was _ _ _ _ like you i would say that too
:rofl:

[Bahama Mama]

That's it? :(


Oh yeah..and you have nice teeth...smile!!!! :icon_mrgr

[acidblade]

Oh yeah..and you have nice teeth...smile!!!! :icon_mrgr

:icon_lol: :icon_lol: :icon_lol: :dwl: ok there u have it, BM has spoken LOL

[Manu]

:icon_lol: :icon_lol: :icon_lol: :dwl: ok there u have it, BM has spoken LOL


Let not your heart be trouble dear Acid for somethings are beyond you. I'm actually quite flattered that you would consider me fat and ugly. You know... with you being a Calabar youth and all.... so I thank you. One less d00d to worry about. ;)

[Juliet]

I have met two people from CY- spoke to one person from over the phone and have met the other one in person. (no folks, neither is Trinidadian...)- i'll tell you guys more later...

[Juliet]

Right. They're both wonderful people . Actually, one of them introduced me to CY.

[*_JIGGA_*]

I avnt met, nor spoken to ne 1 other than tha post in tha forum, & tha last chat that was held here i coulnt login so a guess mi salt...:icon_cry:

[Madhacker]

Seen pongi in traffic couple time well unda him A/C met Chris at a seminar I guess thats it for now

[acidblade]

Seen pongi in traffic couple time well unda him A/C met Chris at a seminar I guess thats it for now

wah di thread name? :eusa_thin

[Madhacker]

wah di thread name? :eusa_thin
Met and Talk to chris he didnt act or sound like I expected :rolleyes:

[acidblade]

Met and Talk to chris he didnt act or sound like I expected :rolleyes:

:icon_lol: :icon_mrgr

[root_gal]

I've never really met anyone on here on purpose, largely cos I'm scared of getting killed (:eusa_shif never can be too sure who's behind these screens). But I ran into A_A at training. He is practically the identical twin of one of my friends. In person he's just like how he is here - pretty cool guy :cool: .

[Virus]

I've ran into Twinkie couple a times.. she pretty sweet, nice smile and thing :eusa_shif

[Gwadinka]

I really do not think that I will meet any CY members, except if I go to Jamaica and the other Caribbean islands represented here, or some come to Gwad or to France, but all those options are highly unimaginable.
So I guess we will stay in the dark, maybe it is for the better.

[AngelsKiss]

I really do not think that I will meet any CY members, except if I go to Jamaica and the other Caribbean islands represseented here, or some come to Gwad or to France, but all those options are highly unimaginable.
So I guess we will stay in the dark, maybe it is for the better.


LOL...I was in Jamaica and Trinidad in December and I didn't meet anyone.

I am here in Canada where a few CY members are and I still have not met any :)