In a relationship, how long should you wait before getting married?

[Cocoa]

CK: People these days are taking marriage as a joke. That's why there is an increase in the number of divorce cases.

So true. Some people especially in the famous arena goes into marriage with a blind eye and an open heart where they think that there is a way out if the crap hits the fan. So they rig up all these ideas as a 'just-in-case-" plan, if the marriage doesn't survive. So they settle for divorce, prenuptial agreements, move back home to parents plan, his & her house, and quick fixes to name a few.

By far I believe the longer you wait before getting married, the more you will get to know the person and nourish such relationship.

My Pastor in Jamaica once told me, marriage doesn't begin when you say 'I do". It begins from the moment the agreement was made to be in an intimate female, male relationship. So we must keep that in mind, when choosing life partners.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

My Pastor in Jamaica once told me, marriage doesn't begin when you say 'I do". It begins from the moment the agreement was made to be in an intimate female, male relationship. So we must keep that in mind, when choosing life partners.

Very wise counsel indeed.

If people took intimate relationships more seriously, with the view that it should lead to a life together in marriage then:

1. Individuals would be get to know people better before even committing to a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. They'd be friends first.

2. They would abstain from behaviour which would put them at risk until they were sure of a lifetime commitment.

3. They would learn to develop true love rather than settle for infatuation.

There would definitely be a more stable foundation for marriage.

[Cocoa]

If people took intimate relationships more seriously, with the view that it should lead to a life together in marriage then:

1. Individuals would be get to know people better before even committing to a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. They'd be friends first.

2. They would abstain from behaviour which would put them at risk until they were sure of a lifetime commitment.

3. They would learn to develop true love rather than settle for infatuation.

There would definitely be a more stable foundation for marriage.

Which brings us to another point, what are the fundamental requirements of building a relationship?

[Arch_Angel]

Which brings us to another point, what are the fundamental requirements of building a relationship?

Friendship.

[BlackCryptoKnight]

Which brings us to another point, what are the fundamental requirements of building a relationship?

Mutual respect, commitment and trust ... oh...love

[Chicokid]

Continuous love and romance...those should grow as the relationship does

[Greatis]

I find it ridiculous to get married after a couple of years... can you know the person well enough after a couple swings huh I don't think so... do people spend time anymore to become friends get to know the little stuff about each other before getting married... no unfortunately that is a dying art...

Part of the problem is that people tend to jump directly into a relationship and then to marraige... People don't become friends anymore and then move to marriage so that during the marraige you not only have a husband/wife but a best friend...

[Cocoa]

I find it ridiculous to get married after a couple of years...

So based on what you have said here and above, the question still remains, HOW LONG?

[Greatis]

well time frame is kinda hard to put on it... A question like this has no answer really cause it's just a matter opinion that will change from person to person... I for one well I think a year or two years is too short of a time hmmm I would think after 4yrs you would have a basic understanding of your partner...

[Arch_Angel]

But doesn't that have to do with the amount of time you spend with each other? If you see other everyday, work together everyday, talk to each other everyday, go out everyda, do you still need a lot of time to understand your partner?

But I do agree with you Greatis, don't take me wrong.
Waiting before getting married allows you to see how your partner deals with different situations in life. Do they break down or do they take a stand? Do they give up easily? Do they go crazy and start to drink and lock themselves in thier room?

Stuff like that you don't find out in a few months.